Seeking Advice

Submitted by qwertygal on November 27, 2006 - 10:25am
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I found this site while doing a search on the internet for prolapse. I have not been diagnosed but am scared that I might have a prolapse. First I am 27. The last time I went to the gyn was ten years ago. I hate doctors and haven't been back since. Also, I am still a virgin. I have felt fine so didn't see the necessity. This is very embarassing for me but I don't know who else to talk to. I saw a small lump. It is hard to look so maybe it is nothing. I was bent over in half looking. I touched it and it didn't hurt. I didn't even know it was there. I don't know why I am asking because I know you will say go. Should I get it looked at or could it be nothing? Also, it is just there. I was thinking maybe a prolapse but if I push it, it doesn't get puched back it. My finger kind of slips past it, but I have never had a large opening (could never wear tampons). Would it go back in if it was a prolapse? I am so nervous over this I think I am having a panic attack as I write this. Also, if it does turn out to be a prolapse, will that interfere with me having sex for the first time? I am getting married in March. What about children? All the info I have read says mainly woman who have already had children get this. I am scared to death. I hate doctors so much. I am in desperate need of any advice.

AnnW

November 27, 2006 - 3:21pm

Hi Qwertygal,

As much as you don't like doctors, I would gently recommend making an appt with a gynocologist (maybe get a recommendation from a friend) to find out what your lump is. It could be anything, really.

Good luck!

Ann

jmqphd93

November 27, 2006 - 4:30pm

Please see a doctor for your own peace of mind. Ask a trusted friend for a recommendation. The ob/gyn practice that I go to has only women on staff - you might be more comfortable in that kind of a setting. Many practices also have websites, so you can "visit" them before making an appointment. Also, when you book the appointment, let them know that you have a lot of anxiety about it - they'll be able to reassure you.
Keep us posted!
Best wishes,
J.

louiseds

November 27, 2006 - 8:40pm

Hi Qertygal
Welcome. You sound very worried, which is not a nice place to be while looking forward to a wedding.

You do need to know what is going on in your reproductives, but you do not need to consent to any treatment that a doctor tells you that you need. If you don't like the sound of the diagnosis, get a second opinion to verify it.

Once you really know what is happening then you can decide whether or not to follow the treatment they prescibe or look elsewhere for other treatments and ways of managing it before committing your body to surgery or drugs that may not be the magic bullet the doctor says they are. And yes, prolapses mainly happen in older women who have had children but there are a few women younger than you who have posted on this Forum, so you are not alone. There will probably be some posts from some of them in a short time.

Of course, you may need treatment quickly if the lump is sinister, but fear of the unknown is your real enemy, not the doctor. That fear could cost you a lot if you are not able to confront it. I am sorry this post is so businesslike, but there are times when it is really important to be businesslike. Chances are that it is something simple.

Have a look at www.wholewoman.com and follow the links to the FAQ's page so you are familiar with some of the things the doctor may talk about with you.

Best wishes for the doctor's visit, and take care. Call back and tell us what you have found out after you have been.

Cheers

Louise

MichelleK

November 28, 2006 - 10:26am

Hi Qwertygal, I know you must feel so worried, but I must agree that having an appointment is your first course of action. 10 years is a looooong time, even for someone who isn't sexually active :) Not only older women get prolapse, I'm only 29 and have prolapses of everything (bladder, rectocele, uterus). I thought it all happened after my son was born 5 months ago, but I reviewed some old medical records and found that a doctor had noted my cystocele when I was only 25 - he never told me!! So I can relate to being 'too young' for a certain condition.
Just before I was married, I found out I had a chronic bladder condition (unrelated to prolapses). It was scary for me too, wondering how my fiancee would see me, if he could handle it, if I could have children, etc. Everything has worked itself out, as it will for you. Please take care of yourself - doctors don't know everything, but a checkup might help alleviate your fears~
MichelleK