very nervous

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So ladies,
I have to admit I am very nervous about having sex. I havent had any since my cystocele. Its about a stage 2. Not protruding or anything.
Im just freaked out about it. I dont want anyone to see it or notice it.
Can you speak from your own experiences and let me know what I should expect. Its been about 8 months since my prolaspes and I havent had sex since. Please please tell me.
pat

a little dutch courage might help - and of course patience-
I am positive that even in the best of lighting and upon great inspection that your partner will not see or sense your prolapse- as long as you are comfortable your partner will be really happy.

If you are married then I guess you need to trust yourself and your husband--with a husband you have to be the person to reassure him etc. He might be afraid to hurt you etc. and you need to trust each other to know no one will be "hurt" and that intimacy is in general a help for your physical situation and emotional--to feel wanted and attractive etc. If there is an uncomfortable position etc. to be able to change and laugh about it after you cry!!
If you are not married then maybe you are feeling nervous because you realize you are vulnerable now sexually and your heart and good sense is telling you to make sure you only intimate with someone you can trust and maybe you haven't found that person yet. You are not a machine--you are a woman and you deserve to be with someone who you can trust especially now. I am married and I know I would make a man pass many many tests for me if I were dating! I would have a long list of requirements and he would have to PROVE himself worthy of trust!! I wouldn't be as easily impressed as I used to be!!!
I don't know if my husband would have passed--I think I would've added has to LOVE the same movies I do to my list...I regret letting him pass on that...I can't watch one more action adventure to save my life!!! I really think he SHOULD leap at the chance to watch "The Way We Were" with me...!
Funny but I was thinking just yesterday that we women really take a giant leap of faith always in sexual matters prolapsed or not and honestly it is a miracle we do it everyday, year in and year out...we are really quite remarkable people--women. We are always strong and vulnerable at the same time--I don't know how we do it...
I hope you find the perfect situation for yourself Pat. Know how precious you are!

OK... TMI post here (You ready)

If you stand up - Touch yourself and feel they cystocele - Get to know it better or - better still get him to (I got my partner to do this for me - It's easier)

So - You are standing up and he is touching the cele - You then lie back slowly...

The cele will RISE up and back...
When you are laying down fully - He or you will find it hard to find the cele - Cos when you lie down it returns to its UP position :)

My cystocele was bad in the beginning but I noticed when getting partner to track it's movements upon lying down that when prone it is gone...

Sex has never been a problem - In all essence sex is a HELP!

Mainly (TMI)

Cos penetrative sex kinda rams it back up there and for at least a few days afterwards you feel 'normal' again :)

So... Test your cele - See what it does...
All will be well and when you find the next day the cele feels better - You may find sex a less scary thing to do - Mainly cos it is theraputic to your Prolapse problem...

I usually say to my partner - I will have use of your appendage later on - He laughs cos he knows this is something that really does work to make things better for the cele...
LMAO - I just read this to him and he walks off giggling

LOL