Is there any hope for me?

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Is there any hope for me? I read Christine's book too late, had already had the surgery for prolapse (which, surprise, surprise, failed within months). Went to a larger center from where I live to investigate further surgery ( I know, I know) and when the doctor told me she would be happy to perform the surgery, I asked questions about the success rate. Well.....it was more of a FAILURE rate, because she had to admit that it failed MOST of the time. I was incredulous. When I attempted to ask more questions, she became defensive and said she would not play "word games" with me! Is it any wonder she felt defensive? Here she is performing these procedures, being well-paid for it, knowing that the surgery will be a failure. I feel resentful at ever having surgery knowing I am forever scarred internally. My question is: is there any hope for me? Will doing the postures and following the other advice here be of any benefit to me? Or, am I wasting my time? Reading Christine's book made me sad and mad. Sad, because had I read it before my surgery, I never would have gone through with it, I know that in my heart. Mad, to think that this surgery is performed every day with full knowledge that it does NOT work.

Hi 9oxford

No wonder you are angry and sad. I think most of us have felt similarly at some point, either at the blatant hypocrisy of those treating us, or that we have been misled into doing things that with more research on our part, less blind trust and a bit of serendipity we might not have been misled into. There are things all of us would have done differently if given a second chance. It is all very well in hindsight. I was very fortunate to find this Forum, and to buy Christine's book, before I went to my first gyno appointment, and I now laugh at his advice to have a very complicated operation unnecessarily (and his words that there are no other options!). Fifteen months down the track I am laughing louder than ever, as I hardly experience any of the symptoms of prolapse at all, or only for short periods of time, maybe a few hours when I have been not moving consciously and forgotten my posture during a physically demanding task.

No, I am sure it is not too late. You cannot undo the surgery, but you can still move more the way nature intended, and still carry your pelvic organs in a way that they will not collapse further, and you can still amend your diet to keep your bowel light, and amend your clothing to take the pressure off your pelvic floor, and you can still exercise to build up all the muscles that support the pelvis, sacrum and spine and to realign the fascia that relate to the pelvic organs. Christine, veteran of surgery, is a Master (Mistress?) at this. It is how she started all this work in the first place. Re-read "Telling", the first chapter of Saving the Wholewoman.

You do need to allow yourself to grieve, and forgive yourself and the doctors concerned. To your credit you did ask the second doctor all the questions you needed to, and saw for yourself that she didn't have positive answers. You were only following the advice you had the first time. The second time you have saved yourself. Well done. It is not your fault that you have ended up as you are, but it is your job to find out what you can, and do what you can to make your life and your body better than it is, and I am sure it can be better. It will probably take some time, but you will eventually be able to move on in your heart and mind, and the anger and sadness will resolve.

Cheers

Louise

clothing that takes pressure of the pelic floor...I assume the fembrace or V2 suppoter is not good to wear..?

I think a more useful way to look at it is clothing that allows full expansion and movement of the natural spine and pelvis. Especially clothing that doesn't constrict around the waist. The benefit of the garments you mention is that they give support under the perineum, which many women appreciate. I haven't looked at their product line in years, but I think the traditional fembrace has a strong waistband, which seems constricting.