My beloved shoes? Off to Goodwill?

Submitted by Spamelah on November 30, 2012 - 12:04pm
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Question:

What is the recommendation on shoes to wear? I already know that heels make my prolapse feel worse. I wore 3" heels a few weeks back and didn't feel the best even with wearing a pessary. The pitch forward is unnatural, I know.

But what about my much beloved Dansko clogs and Merrell clogs? I do love them so!

I had been wearing minimalist shoes for exercise and I still do. I like how they make me feel one with the earth, and they took care of my knee pain. I like having a bit of height on my short little frame, so my 2" chunky Dansko clogs are my go-to shoe. The are clunky but don't really throw my posture off that I can notice.

Thanks!

Forum:

Surviving60

November 30, 2012 - 12:30pm

To what extent can you stay in Whole Woman posture while wearing either of these? That would be the issue, I think. I don't wear anything but flats so I can't say. - Surviving

Spamelah

November 30, 2012 - 1:09pm

I haven't started the WW posture really. I'm sifting around the site trying to find the information while waiting for my book. I get the gist of WW posture, but hoping to find a point by point description. I don't see it in FAQ.

I can't just wear flats the rest of my life. :( Just cannot. Right now I'm giving up too many things.

Surviving60

November 30, 2012 - 1:16pm

It is absolutely point by point in the FAQ's. Scroll down to the bottom, there are pix and everything. Get going! - Surviving

PS, Well, it used to be there, sorry but it must have gotten moved somewhere........

fab

November 30, 2012 - 4:31pm

Try the blog tab on the home page

Surviving60

November 30, 2012 - 5:45pm

Or just follow the Forum. Not a day goes by without someone repeating the mantra.....relax your belly, pull up your chest, shoulders down, don't tuck your butt....sound familiar, anyone? - S60

fab

November 30, 2012 - 6:21pm

Sounds like a dose of repeat itis is spreading to the fatigued and vigilant WW forum contributors. Thanks again for all your wonderful posts, surviving. You do such a good, kind and vigilant job and this has contributed so much to the forum's welcoming and indefatigable face.

Try a dose of close your eyelids for 60 seconds, and then bash up a good cup of strong coffee with loads of cream.

Surviving60

November 30, 2012 - 7:00pm

Thanks Fab, yeah, I'd take you up on that suggestion if it wasn't bedtime in my part of the world. I'll find something to take its place, but without the caffeine....

I know I do get a little impatient at times. And I apologize to anyone I may have offended. Here it is ladies, the solution you seek, the thing that will allow you to get on with life. Just. Do. It. I don't understand why someone would wait until tomorrow, when they can start today. - Surviving

MsNightingale

November 30, 2012 - 8:18pm

Yes, listen to the lovely fab and the lovely surviving.....get that posture going right now. You will be so beautiful and in time, feel so beautiful. As for the shoes, do not get depressed.....first, own the posture, it will take a few months to really own it (that is, if you work at it), then, you will find there is some flexibility. When at my cabin, I wear my dear cowboy boots and yes, they have a heel. All other times in life, I am barefoot or sockfoot when its cold (flat shoes or boots in winter). But those cowboy boots with those heels are awesome and I do not suffer from it, so enjoy it on occasion. So.... my view is that once you have the posture for real, you will have moments in your old high heels, clogs, whatever, maybe even you will get some cowboy boots. Best wishes to you!

louiseds

December 2, 2012 - 3:56am

Wellll, Spamelah

You are right, managing POP means that we do have to give some things up, but we can take some things up instead, like having good reason not to hurry, allowing ourselves to nurture our body, instead of wringing every last drop out of it and expecting it to come up trumps, and of course, getting our pelvic support back!

We can't have it all. But we can have most of it. I still wear high heels on occasions, but they are pretty far apart. I really only wear them when I am going to be sitting down all night. I just don't like being up in the air with a small base to stand on, and they are simply not comfortable for me. There are so many lovely flats. Why wear skyscrapers?

You can decide when to give what up. It is your choice. You want improvement? Well, just make the right decision. That was mean and rational of me to say it like that. Sorry. But you know what I mean? You have the rest of your life to do this work. Don't hurry it. I think that one day you will find that your high heels are all covered in dust at the back of your wardrobe/closet. Perhaps leave it until then to ditch them? it doesn't have to be done tomorrow.

Louise

petrified52

December 2, 2012 - 8:33am

Hi Spamelah. I am just beginning with this condition. I once loved very high heels and boots of all kinds. That was many years ago now. My husband of 28 years is shorter than I by about 2 inches, so 29 years ago I gave up the heels and began looking for all kinds of stylish flats. They are out there. It was a transition but in the long run it turned out to be so much more comfortable. I wear them with dresses, pants, anything at all. Moccasins of all colors and materials. Suede, snake skin, even sequin-covered. I agree with some of the other ladies. Use your heels when mostly sitting, out for a formal dinner, etc. and when you are ready, take a gander while shopping and see what is out there in those "other" shoes. I'm sure that you won't be disappointed. Best wishes to you!

Surviving60

December 2, 2012 - 8:39am

I stopped wearing heels long before prolapse was discovered. I had one remaining pair (bright red!) that my daughter liked to try on when she was little. One day the dog discovered them, and chewed one of them up. Good riddance, I said! Good doggie! - Surviving