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Hey everyone I'm only 16 and I'm pretty sure I have bladder prolapse but I'm not completely sure ,I'm scared I haven't told my mom or gone to the doctors this really scary for me, i don't know what to do .I'm scared to go to the doctors and tell me i might need surgery i have been doing research ... Please help

Maybe I got it wrong. Sorry if I offended you. It is so hard to read people's intentions on a Forum. there have been something like 48 comments just on this topic, which is *a lot* and we still don't know if you have taken any steps to get your prolapse sorted. This is not right. After ten months of Whole Woman a woman would have seriously implemented almost everything she could.

I think you might be scared of what will happen if you tell someone, and that's why you keep putting it off.

It is still up to you to get the help of a trusted, adult woman, to help you to negotiate with doctors, teachers, and even your Mom, over what you need to do. It is also important that you understand the level of long term stress you are heaping on yourself by not following through on what you need to do. It is also your responsibility to act on the suggestions that you have been given.

If you haven't yet asked the doctor about your prolapse you don't have an 'objective' opinion on what has happened (and where you are at), then you don't have anywhere to start. This is not a sports event that you are competing in for the flag, or a school exam that you will either pass or fail. It is remodelling 24/7, for the rest of your life, the way your body is arranged in space, how you use your body for the rest of your life, and how you support your pelvic organ support with your diet, your clothing style, your physical exercise, your lifestyle and how you do physical tasks. It also has implications for the state your body will be in later in life if you want to have a baby, and beyond.

I have addressed you in this post as if you are an adult, though I realise that you are only 16, and would most likely have very little peer support with these POP difficulties. I know peer support is very important to young people but sometimes it is really the wise thing to do to go to a trusted adult for some guidance. I would be very, very worried if I was your Mom, and knew that you were dealing with POP by yourself, with only the help of women you have never met, on an internet Forum. (We know that we are OK but your Mom doesn't.)

OK, so maybe this is not something you are comfortable talking to your Mom about, but I really think that adult help is what you need, which is one of the reasons why I suggested professional counselling, to help you to move this on and get some communication happening with a trusted adult woman, with your doctor, or with a Whole woman Practitioner, and get on with doing something about your wandering pelvic organs. ;-)

Please don't put it off any longer. That's all I will say. Aunt Louise has spoken. (((Dreamer)))

Aunt Louise :-)

Dreamer, you might have bladder prolapse but there is something else that might be there. You might also have long inner labia that come down and remain visible between your outer labia. This is quite normal. Inner labia are important. Don't even think about trimming them surgically. The arms of your clitoris are underneath them, and they allow the birth canal to expand further during childbirth. They also contain a lot of erogenous tissue. they are precious!

:-)

When I saw your name pop up, I was excited to hear from you to see how you were doing. I am saddened by the questions that still linger. It seems that you have not yet seen a doctor or shared this situation with your mom. Louise has given you some beautiful guidance. Yes, you need a trusted adult woman to share this with and you need a professional diagnosis. As with many things, the sooner you deal with it the better. Without someone to talk to and without a diagnosis, you are left with fear and worry. I send you best wishes and hope that you can find the strength to finally address the situation. All the best to you dear dreamer.

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