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Hi--just saw the OB/Gyn today and he confirmed what I already suspected and then some... I have stage 2 cystocele, stage 2 urethracele, stage 3 rectocele. Here is my question: when I push on all of the celes, it helps me have a BM. My husband and I haven't had intercourse since I noticed all of this stuff (plus I was on my period!) so I am quite nervous that if we have intercourse, it will stimulate BM. This will horrify my husband (I read the previous post about intercourse and understanding partners and all, but poo in the bed is not OK for my husband!) Has anyone had this happen?! What can I do to prevent?
Thanks
C.

That sounds like splinting C and that shouldn't effect sex at all!
Many women need to push on the rectocele to move a bm when they are constipated etc and it is not an involuntary thing--you have to be letting the rectum "loose" to pass the bm and you simply don't do that during intercourse...I wouldn't worry about it at ALL!!!
Unless the bm's are passing at any time --in other words there are conditions of rectal incontinence--that is not being able to control your rectum and that does not sound like what you are describing at all...I have a cyst and a rect grade two and it has never even occurred to me that anything like that would be a possibility since it is really far more difficult now than ever to let go and relax to have a BM than ever.
If you are nervous, make sure you are not constipated (I can't have sex if I am--just too uncomfortable!!!) and fresh from a really nice bath!!!!

Have a wonderful night and do not be afraid!!

I agree with what the last person said. You hafta relax the bowel for a BM. Maybe you do not feel you are relaxing but it tends to really not do it by itself.

:-) All will be ok...
Sue