Ordered the book but need help please

Submitted by mumwithone on May 15, 2007 - 6:09am
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Hi ladies,

I'm very excited that I've ordered Christine's book. I'm looking forward to it arriving but I think it may take a little while as it has to be shipped to Australia. Anyway, I just wanted to check in because over the last two weeks my prolapse has gotten significantly worse. I have no idea why but it's really worrying me, especially because I wanted to try for baby number two next month. Is there anything I can do to help stop it from getting worse before the book arrives? I've been doing the posture as much as I can but I do spend a lot of time on the computer, which I'm sure isn't helping matters?

Any ideas would be much appreciated.

Also, I'm going to see an obstetrician about having another baby next week. I'm seeing a man who is apparently very supportive of active, natural birth. Of course, I'll be asking about this and about avoiding episiotomy again, and discomfort with pregnancy, but is there anything else I should ask? I think I have to go the hospital route because I had a hemmorage last time, but will probably use a doula to help in that regard.

Thanks.

MeMyselfAndI

May 15, 2007 - 8:35am

As him about how he feels about YOU controlling your labour - And 'pushnot' ClickyHere

If you are sitting at your computer desk make sure you are not slouching forwards... Might be an idea to have a cushion for the small of your back :)

Then again - No matter what you do you will worry - But... Be bullheaded and tell that darn prolapse it is NOT going to take over your life and it is damn well NOT going to dictate to you whether you have another child or not...

((HUGS))

alemama

May 15, 2007 - 2:05pm

I love to hear of women planning pregnancies despite prolapse.
Let see....with out the book - what could you do to improve the state of your prolapse? Did you read Christine's recent blog? It describes an exercise that might help.
When my prolapse is more noticeable I try to slow way down- focus on the posture and get someone else to do the heavy lifting (kiddos, laundry, you name it). I also spend time in the yoga position downward dog and on my knees and elbows- even at the computer-
and of course when things get rough for me I check my diet...seems to play a minor role in the ups and downs-

Hey maybe you are already pregnant.

Good luck talking to the doctor- I would probably ask for statistics (how many un-medicated births in one year, how many surgical....numbers don't lie).

mumwithone

May 15, 2007 - 11:38pm

Thanks so much ladies for your helpful advice.

MeMyselfandI, thanks, I took a look at the ‘push not’ site when I first joined Whole Woman and it will definitely be important for me. I was told to push, push, push with baby number one, and everything came out with the baby – my mum was there and saw it herself. Thanks for the advice, that’s probably the most important question to ask, and that’s a great way to put it to him. Thanks too for the encouragement – I will not let this prolapse rule my life. Affirmations really help, I’ve been saying to myself all week ‘I am strong and I am healthy.’

Alemama, thank you for your kind words of encouragement. It’s scary going for baby number two but this is what I want out of life. I will take a look at Christine’s blog. I’ll also do those other things you suggested. Thanks again.

granolamom

May 16, 2007 - 7:29am

going for baby number two is always a leap of faith, to some degree. you know what I say...go for it!
and definitely speak to any prospective ob about delivering in positions other than on your back. I'm now a big fan of hands&knees! and allowing the birth to happen without pushing is glorious, absolutely glorious. You can just experience the wonder of it without the distraction of active pushing. I recommend it whole heartedly!

and the best news...my prolapses are no worse after the baby. at least not yet (I'm three weeks postpartum).

mumwithone

May 16, 2007 - 10:28pm

Thank you for commenting Granolamom. I definitely won't deliver on my back again - I didn't want to the first time round but I guess back then I wasn't strong enough to stand up for myself. Plus, if I'd realised just how important it was not to maybe things would be different. Thanks for sharing your birth story too - it's very encouraging to hear and makes me even more determined to deliver how I want to.

I got the book in the mail yesterday. I'm thrilled it was so quick to get here. I'm looking forward to applying all the info and have been reading, reading, reading.

ATM I feel really angry over how my labour was managed, or mismanaged. The obstetrician had a complete disregard for what I wanted and went against my wishes on several counts. After reading up on episiotomies, I realise this has a lot to do with my prolapse. I also think that maybe what I thought was a hemmorhage was actually being cut too early - as it says in the book that this can result in heavy bleeding. I went to an ob thinking it was the best level of care I could have. Now I just feel that I was really naive about it all.

Anyway, I'm feeling really encouraged and as they say 'knowledge is power.'

granolamom

May 17, 2007 - 7:06am

you are not alone, mumwithone. so many of us here have feelings of anger regarding our births. we go to dr's, especially when we are young and pg with our first, because we think - we've been told, and made to believe - that they will look out for us and provide us with top notch care.

you weren't naive, you believed that a doctor would take good care of you. and a woman in labor for the first time is really not in a good position to properly advocate for herself. now that you know more, you can choose your health care provider more carefully.

and I totally agree with you, this work is empowering. you have good reason to feel encouraged.

mumwithone

May 21, 2007 - 10:28pm

Granolamom. I'm feeling a lot more positive as I read through Christine's book. I've started doing the fire breathing every day and it seems my prolapse has already improved a little. I have run through the workout once so far and that also helped.

I am nervous but also feeling good about seeing this ob that supports active, natural birth. I've also got a few numbers for doulas to call in my area. I think putting these things in place will help a lot with I'm heading to the library soon to get books on natural, active birth too1

I'm so grateful for having found this site and people like you who are so supportive. Without it I could have gone through surgery and may not have opted to have a second child.