Some advice please

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Hi everyone. I recently had surgery to help with stress incontinence 6 weeks ago. The procedure i had was a burch colposuspension. Then one week ago my uerus prolapsed. Im so upset i dont know how to deal with it. Im only 30 years old. My prolapse has been checked out by a doctor who has asked my surgeon for an emergency appointment which he hasnt given me yet. My prolapse isnt outside the vagina but its right at the opening of the vagina. My husband is scared to come near me and said he wont have sex with me until its sorted out. Dont get me wrong he is really supportive and hasnt made me feel really bad about it (no worse than I already feel anyway!) but he is really scared of hurting me or making it worse. It does hurt down there too so im not sure id want to have sex at the moment anyway but dont want to put it off forever. I just feel like im falling apart and dont know how it can get better. Please help. Tina xxx

hello tina. welcome to the site.
I'm so sorry you had reason to seek us out. for the most part, we're a bunch of women with various prolapse(s) who are managing it with posture, diet and other lifestyle changes and hoping to avoid surgery altogether. the cornerstone of the ideas here is an intact pelvis, ie one that has not yet been surgically altered.
that said, I still think there may be hope for you. In fact, christine came to this wholewoman philosophy after herself being 'stitched up' to help with stress incontinence.
I highly recommend that you get your hands on christine's book 'saving the wholewoman', the second edition, which can be purchased on this site. aside from that, read up on the faq's on the homepage here. begin to learn about the posture and impliment it straight away.
what has most likely happened to you is this: the surgery you had tacked your vagina in ways it is not designed to function. this is how they help stop the incontinence. problem is, that now your uterus is not well supported and has a nice big hole to fall into. and so it did. unfortunately, this is somewhat common following these bladder procedures, but the good news is that you are not alone, nor is this truly an emergency of life threatening nature. though I do think the surgeon should see you ASAP, I don't think you necessarily need to plunge headfirst into another surgery to now, take out or tack up, your uterus.
seriously, take some time to learn more about POP, how it develops and how we are stabilizing ours by learning to stand and move in a posture that naturally supports pelvic organs over bone (instead of over a hole - the vagina).

keep reading, and keep coming back with any questions you may have. I think that it may be more challenging for you, now that you've had the colposuspension, but there is still reason to believe that you can keep your uterus inside you with this work.

best of luck to you

Agree. Do not rush into another surgery. Probably you had some undiagnosed mild prolapse that was being "held up" by some bladder prolapse, which was the cause of the incontinence. Now that the bladder was lifted a bit, the uterus is able to come farther down into the vagina. It is not harmful and you can even have sex, if it is comfortable otherwise. My uterus is about as low as yours and my husband and I have sex all the time. It gets pushed out of the way by his penis, or it just slides back up when I lie on my back. In fact, this might be tmi, but I can put my finger in there and push it all around to and fro, up and down; I can put it back up "where it belongs" and then let it drop back down again... ha ha ha ha... all it is is the supports holding it up aren't tight anymore. It is like a loose hammock instead of a solid shelf. Is not going to hurt anything; prolapse by itself is no threat to your health unless the uterus is entirely outside the body. It is a moist "skin" that is not meant to be exposed to the air, but short of that, no worries.

I can understand why this would cause you to panic, but try not to... buy the book and read it before you commit to any surgery.