So I went to the gyn yesterday

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I went to see the nurse practitioner yesterday to get a repap. After I had the baby my pap came back abnormal(one more thing to worry about). Anyway, she scheduled me an emergency appointment with the gyn for Tuesday about my prolapses. She said nobody should continue to live in this amount of pain and that I should consider surgery. She also felt the gyn will want to send me to see a colorectal surgeon because my rectocele has caused horrific chronic hemroids and a slight mucosal prolapse. Yippie skippie!!!!! I plan to ask the gyn about a possible pessary. I'll see the proctologist to make sure nothing life-threatening is going on in the hinterlands, and then I'll go about my life. How can they consider suggesting surgery to a person who has a 9 month old baby to care for/carry around? I just don't get it. I am hoping that once the baby is weaned(who knows when that will be - my son nursed for 3 years) I can take a low dose muscle relaxant when I need to for the rectal spasms. I believe the spasms are becoming less frequent/intense.

Anyway, thanks for listening ladies. Just venting more than anything!

It sounds like you're taking the right steps. I don't really know the dangers of everted rectum, but if they tell you that you absolutely MUST have surgery, I would make them explain in excruciating detail exactly what they will do and what the consequences will be if they do not, and perhaps most important, what are the odds of those consequences. "Well you could die," means one thing if the odds are 95% but quite another if they are 1 in 1000.

I would also ask them to give you an array of options. I suspect a surgeon will want to "go in and fix everything while I'm there" but for example, if they can stitch back in the anus without bothering all the rest, maybe that is the thing to do. Find out what the most conservative and non-invasive option is.

I certainly would not allow them to do any vaginal wall repair without first trying a pessary. And if the pain you are in is the doctor's main issue, have you tried ALL options for pain control? Gone to a chronic pain clinic?

Those are some ideas I would do if I were in your shoes, they may or may not be appropriate for you. My heart goes out to you, this is definitely not fun!