When I first “cracked the code” on stabilizing and reversing prolapse, and wrote and published Saving the Whole Woman, I set up this forum. While I had finally gotten my own severe uterine prolapse under control with the knowledge I had gained, I didn’t actually know if I could teach other women to do for themselves what I had done for my condition.
So I just started teaching women on this forum. Within weeks, the women started writing back, “It’s working! I can feel the difference!”
From that moment on, the forum became the hub of the Whole Woman Community. Unfortunately, spammers also discovered the forum, along with the thousands of women we had been helping. The level of spamming became so intolerable and time-consuming, we regretfully took the forum down.
Technology never sleeps, however, and we have better tools today for controlling spam than we did just a few years ago. So I am very excited and pleased to bring the forum back online.
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Christine Kent
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Clonmacnoise
April 6, 2010 - 7:17pm
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Using Tampons
I've used an olive oil lubed tampon for two years with wonderful success. I feel normal most of the time. You must use it lying down and you must aim it towards the rear.
The best help is doing core work constantly. We can never put back the tissues, but we can strengthen the muscles in our "gut" to accomodate the sagging. When you tighten the core of the body, everything works better.
By developing core strength, Christine's posture is a no brainer.
Judy
Christine
April 6, 2010 - 8:04pm
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stabilizing prolapse
Hi theteach,
The “natural history” of prolapse is not fully understood, but there are some definite truths that have been identified by practitioners for over a century. One is that - generally speaking - the worse a woman’s cystocele becomes, the less she is bothered by stress urinary incontinence. This is simply because the bladder is bending backward, and in doing so clamps off the urethra. Consequently, she has to learn to wee leaning forward in order to open her urethra and completely empty her bladder. In a younger woman (you don’t give your age, but I mean in a woman with normal anatomy), the pubococcygeous muscle acts as that same clamping device to keep urine inside the bladder until you want it to go out. With a slight cystocele the muscles are held open and therefore do not clamp as effectively. Our work is to find a good balance with either the normal muscular clamp (which you strengthened with PT), or the flopped over clamp. Once the perfect muscle clamp is compromised, it is life-long work to maintain a good alternative balance. That alternative is slightly bulgy front and back vaginal walls that support the urethra and bladder in a somewhat natural configuration, preventing both incontinence and urinary retention.
Each woman needs to experiment with what reduces symptoms and what exacerbates prolapse. Judy has just given her take on what she finds most helpful. However, I take issue with “doing core work constantly”, because it is an unnatural response to a more-or-less natural condition. I have no doubt that PTs and yoga teachers really do get results with some percentage of their prolapsed clientele who are willing to suck it all up with tremendous time and effort. I believe the other option that WW has identified: some movement (great amount of individual variation) of the organs forward, no tampons, and acceptance of prolapse as an inevitable part of birthing and aging in Western society, is available to a far greater number of women. We should be able to “fix” prolapse by doing something easy and natural, like sticking our stomachs Out rather than sucking them In...and the Whole Woman work has proven that we can do just that. We will be talking a lot more about the core in the coming days and weeks.
Yes, there is a definite sucking in sensation with the firebreathing - but results take time as we are remodeling pelvic fascia - a very slow and imperfect process.
Christine
Christine
April 6, 2010 - 8:44pm
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sticking it out
...and I must clarify that we are not flopping our lower bellies out, but allowing our chest to expand naturally, which inflates the upper abdomen. You can see this on any young child - as it is the natural human form.
theteach
April 7, 2010 - 5:00pm
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Whole Woman Posture
I am so glad you clarified that Christine.....I mean, allowing the chest to expand which inflates the upper abdomen. I think that is probably what I have been doing...it's just I unconsiously was transulating the posture to be with the stomach out...with what one member said was "looking like I am pregnant". I understand it more clearly. I realize that should have been a no brainer, but when you are used to sucking it in as you say for all these years, doing otherwise is foreign.
I was thinking today how some of the super models stand and walk...there are some who I won't mention by name who do seem to carry themselves in a Whole Woman posture...spine curved and chest high. Anyway...thank you so much for all you do for womankind.
theteach
April 7, 2010 - 5:08pm
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tampons
I did read in one of these postings that to insert the tampon you must aim it to the rear. I tried to do that but I probably need to practice. I did notice that when I first inserted it and walked around a bit...it did feel like I was more normal but after I sat down and got up a few times, all within about 20 min. it made its way to the mouth of my vagina and was very uncomfortable. I don't know why it traveled out...either my vaginal canal is too large or maybe I put too much olive oil on it.
I am using the Whole Woman posture whenever possible, doing the firebreathing, walking a lot and am seeing a PT whose speciality is treating incontinence issues and very mild prolapse. Thank you for your reply.
theteach
April 7, 2010 - 5:14pm
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Physical therapy
Thank you Christine for your reply. The PT I am seeing uses a form of Pilates. Is there any specific movement I should avoid? Today she had me taking side steps with a band around my legs and at the same time contracting my vagina... also one where the band is hooked to the wall above my head and I stand on one leg at a time and pull the band back and forth while balancing and contracting my vagina.
I do notice when I do my daily walking now I am more consious of the strength in my pelvis and the prolapse doesn't seem to bother me as much while I am walking. Thank you again for everything.
Christine
April 7, 2010 - 6:27pm
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more on exercise
These exercises are fine. Just make sure you are doing them in natural female posture so that they are helping to move the organs toward their normal positions. We try to avoid a lot of heavy navel-to-spine work.
These exercises are a little more creative, but do you see how they reflect a paradigm that the organs need to be pulled up to sit above a horizontal pelvic floor? Without the framework that the organs actually need to be moved forward and away from a vertical pelvic wall, the exercises are simply fancy kegels.
saddleup
April 7, 2010 - 9:09pm
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cystocele and exercise
Ah, the cystocele, with its accompanying bouts of urinary incontinence. Mine gave me the experience of arising from seated posture to find I had "leaked" slightly, with no warning sensation. I believe my bladder eventually fell further just enough that I no longer experience the incontinence.
Sports tampons helped me for quite a while. I used Bliss Balm as a lubricant. I'm using a silicone ring-with-support pessary now, which I take out at night. I have also begun using the "Roll for Control" exercises developed by PT Janet Hulme. One thing I like is that they are done on a wedge which puts hips up and works against gravity. It's too soon to say whether they help. However, my PT used some of those exercises to help me with the incontinence issues. (Some involved elastic bands.) Who knows what helped the most?
Walking seems to be all around beneficial. That motion helps to keep the vertebral disks supple. I think we were made to walk, and most of us sit too much. Also, walking puts our spines in the extension position, which helps to counter the flexion position of sitting, slouching, etc. Keep walking and finding out which other exercises help. It sounds like you have a good PT.
Best wishes,
Saddleup
louiseds
April 7, 2010 - 11:46pm
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vaginas and kegels
Hi theteach,
Two points.
Remember that the function of the vagina is to let things out, babies, menses, foreign bodies, penises, etc. It is not an organ which is inherently meant to hold things in, eg tampons. The cervix holds babies in, and the pelvic cradles the uterus while it grows the baby. The squishiness and the ease with which the vagina accommodates foreign objects is one of its characteristics, but we are still expecting a lot of it when there is a bladder, uterus or rectum impinging on it, and changing its shape. I do hope you find a way to trick it into holding the tampon. You could also try a sea sponge or a medical pessary.
We have discussed this before, but I wish there was a little, soft, squishy, flat, perhaps saline-filled sac, a bit like a small breast implant, that women could try as a pessary; something about the same density as human tissue. I think you can get little things like this for slipping inside a bra, kind of like an external breast enhancer. Chicken fillets?
Anyone ever tried one in the vagina? A bit weird, I know, but POP is a pretty weird thing to have anyway! ;-)
Christine's comment about the exercises with a Theraband being just fancy Kegals is probably true, but is there any harm in that? One of the challenges of anyone designing exercises is that people get bored very easily. That's why there is always a new exercise program happening down at the local gym.
Go for it. Hope you get some benefit.
Louise
Christine
April 8, 2010 - 3:25pm
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ROFL for control
Sorry...but I couldn't resist.
Saddleup, I am sorry you have not been able to keep riding without it worsening your symptoms. I continue to hold out hope that you will prevail.
Stay tuned.
Christine
theteach
April 25, 2010 - 2:17pm
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Is prolapse different for menopausal vs. postpartum?
I have been checking in daily to read new posts. I have been wondering if the degree of stablization or improvement is related to your age? In other words, it would seem that a woman who is postpartum may have prolapse as a temporary consequence of giving birth whereas, a woman in her 50's or 60's is dealing with other issues...decreased estrogen and less supple tissues. I am 62...and a reasonably active and healthy 62 at that. I have been told my obgyn that I have cytocele but he gave it a grade of 2-4. That's quite a range isn't it? I have been seing a PT who specializes in woman's incontinence issues and the exercises have helped to where I don't have incontinence any more. I finished up with her this past week.
I really don't understand how these organs "fall" into the vagina in the first place. Have they been just teetering on falling all of these years and then we do something that pushes them on through or what? Does the more youthful vaginal wall kind of hold things back better than an older one? It just seems that the vaginal wall, if strong and supple enough, would hold everthing in place more readilly.
Albeit, I am a little frustrated. I do the firebreathing daily...at least I think I am doing it correctly (for the past several months). And, I have gone to wearing loose pants and try to maintain the correct posture, but when I check, I still have the bulge at the mouth of my vagina. I believe I am doing the correct posture...I pay attention whether sitting or standing. I just don't understand that if the vaginal walls are weak from age or lack or hormones, can they ever be expected to support anything again?
I did successfully wear a tampon for two days (took out at night) but the second day felt like it was probably too dry. I have ordered some sea pearl sponges for prolapse and will try them. But, from what I read on one of Christine's replies was that we should try to get along without tampons or such. So, I am confused. I do know when I used the tampon the first day, I felt normal for once in many months and not have that "hanging" feeling in my crotch. I have tried "not checking" for a few days, but then the urge presents itself and I invariably do!
saddleup
April 25, 2010 - 5:39pm
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Tell more
Christine:
For some reason, I just found your reply today. If you think doing the Hulme exercises will harm me with respect to POPs, please tell me your perspective. I like the anti-gravity aspect of doing exercises on the wedge. I've no idea whether or not they will actually help. Thank you.
Saddleup
Christine
April 25, 2010 - 10:13pm
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older women and prolapse
Hello theteach,
No question that older women see less reversal for all the reasons you mention. But if our tissues are well nourished, I think we see just as much stabilization - over time.
The “falling” is quite the puzzle, isn’t it? From my perspective, the organs are pushed into the vagina by internal pressures raised each time we take a breath. In normal anatomy, the organs are pushed out in front of the pubic bones, but because of structural changes due to the ways we sit and stand, they begin to be pushed toward the back. Fascia and vaginal wall tissue have no real strength and lose the battle fairly early on. However, when we change the direction of the flow of intraabdominal pressure, our pelvic interior begins to move toward a more normal anatomy. Some younger women experience positive change almost immediately and this is how we know we are on the right track.
Once the bladder is all the way back to the vaginal opening, it is difficult to mend the stretched fascia. However, I think you can hear a chorus of women saying “keep trying”. It may take years to see results.
To tampon or not to tampon, that is the question. I think we have to use all our resouces and the tampon/pessary/sponge is one of them. I am far better off without any, but would certainly try to wear one if I had severe cystocele/rectocele. But I would wear it as I continued to consciously pull my organs forward with all of my movement throughout the day. It is a special and beautiful kind of dance.
I hope we hear from our dear member Flora, soon. She is one of our elders and an inspiration to all of us struggling on the other side of menopause.
Wishing you well,
Christine
P.S. I am so curious whether your bladder fell further back as a result of kegels and the reason why your urinary incontinence has improved!
Christine
April 25, 2010 - 10:19pm
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more...
Saddleup...I wrote my last blog just for you! Did you see it in the Village Post?
I am so trying to get women to experience natural pelvic organ support for themselves. It is a steep hill - lol.
((((hugs))))
Christine
theteach
April 25, 2010 - 10:47pm
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bladder and kegels
Thank you so much for responding. I don't believe the exercises I was given to do by the PT caused a worsening of my symptoms. I am staying away from any exercises that I believe could make my prolapse worse.
The original cause of my prolapse (discovered it June 09) was probably due to my overzealous acitivity such as lifting, wearing too tight jeans and constipation over the years. I believe I have overcome the constipation very well...at least I seem to have a bowel movement daily now with no bearing down! I have to presume that the incontinence improved because of the kegel type exercises.
I have started drinking the Red Clover tea because I read your article about it on this site.
I also just found out from my physician (who advocates natural approaches to medicine) that I have a vitamin D deficiency and so I am taking theraputic doses in liquid form. My mother had osteoporisis and so I believe I would have a propensity for that condition. I guess it got me started to thinking that I need to keep my bones strong because there are bones in my pelvis that need the support to handle everything else done there. My doctor (a woman) who is an osteopath, also has me taking 1800 mg of calcium a day as well.
As far as general exercise, I am trying to walk 30 min daily. When I am walking, everything feels very good down there!
Thank you again Christine for all that you do for womankind.