Hello! New to the Forum and Ready to Learn All I Can!

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I was very happy to find Whole Woman yesterday on the internet.... Thank you Christine for your work and thanks to everyone that has shared on this forum. I needed a bit of serendipity and Whole Woman showed up for me. I am grateful and relieved! And hopeful Too!

Here's my story...

I'm 57, almost 58 years old. LMP maybe eight years ago now. No children. Last April I ended a long term relationship- putting my sex life on hold- and then moved to the Middle East in August. I ended up with a ferocious case of bronchitis due to the dusty sand here. Sorry to say, I coughed like crazy for months and then, like many people here, my body adjusted and the coughing stopped. Well, about one month ago I became sexually active again. I always enjoyed sex, never had any difficulties... My partner couldn't penetrate me and it hurt like hell, a severe piching sensation. I thought maybe I just wasn't use to having sex or maybe some sort of psych problem was going on. Three nights with my man and the same problem. Fortunately I'd established a good relationship with an understanding partner... But I was so sad, confused and embarassed...

Then I figured this might be some sort of pelvic prolapse. I have had a bit of stress related incontinence... I examined myself and I think maybe my bladder has dropped. There is a bulge, not terribly low or big but I can see that the bulge combined with lack of proper foreplay, lubrication and a measure of anxiety could be the problem. And I'm pretty sure my hormones haven't balanced, so there is that bit as well.

I'm researching this site and I'm hopeful! Thanks again for that! I am traveling for the next three weeks so I won't be able to order the book etc. until then. Fortunately my partner is traveling elsewhere without me for three months so I have some time to sort myself out before I see him again.

I hope I wrote this in the correct place...

Thanks for listening and also for sharing!

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Hope you find peace and gain results with the WW work. The pain you describe sounds like vulva issues to me, but hope it resolves with the measures you mention. Mine showed up out of nowhere with menopause and there does not seem to be a true cure outside of supplemental estrogen. Many, many, many women our age describe pain upon penetration and I'm not sure where the line is drawn between "vaginal" dryness and LS. How do you feel about hopscotch? (sorry - a little joke amongst the old wives here).

Welcome! You are in the right place to be dealing with and learning about dropped bladders and painful sex. You are not alone and there is much help to be found. Not so sure about the hopscotch though ;)

Aza and Christine, Thank you so much for responding! Christine, I think I would like to organize a telephone consult with you once I finish with my current travels, in about two weeks time. I'll explore on the site and figure out how to do this. Best! Deborah