Upcoming pregnancy, panic attack

Submitted by bad_mirror on July 27, 2010 - 2:36pm
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So I am planning to try for a second child in another few months. I had been feeling really great about this decision and mentally and physically strong and prepared to gestate and birth post-pop. I know exactly what I will do -- another home water birth on hands and knees, and I know how I want to handle my recovery this time around. I imagine I'll set myself up better than last time and actually reverse my cystocele even more while my body is in a hyper-healing mode post birth. But OMG I'm beginning to panic regarding early pregnancy and no nauli! Is there any reason to be concerned about my uterus prolapsing (it is not prolapsed now, but was pretty low in my estimation when I found my cystocele. And it could be a bit lower than "normal" now for all I know)?? Tell me again, post-pop-baby-ladies, that it's going to be just fine. Tips for surviving those first 20 weeks??

Christine

July 27, 2010 - 7:16pm

I would love to have another baby in the right way :( I probably couldn’t chase after a two-year-old all day, every day, but I bet I could birth one. My birth setting would be just like yours, dear bad_mirror, and my postpartum time pure WW. Take it from me: uterine prolapse can only get so bad in a woman consciously living in her right shape. If your uterus comes all the way down and stays that way throughout your pregnancy (which I sincerely doubt), you will pull it forward again in time. I know you want to hear from the others, but just had give a hip-hip-hooray! :D

JDsmommy

July 27, 2010 - 8:46pm

I am planning to try to get pregnant again, soon, so perhaps we will be able to support each other in this process. I am quite nervous about early pregnancy making the POP worse because there is really nowhere else for my uterus to go except out! Anyway, keep us posted; I know I will not be the only one wanting to know how you are doing. I'm sure you will do much better because you know about WW than you would if you did not.

Carrie

cararosesmum

July 27, 2010 - 9:36pm

Ladies,
Please don't let something that may or may not happen stop you from having the family you want!
I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second, but first POP, baby and so far my prolapse has behaved itself very well. i thought it would get MUCH worse, and it was marginally worse for the first 2 months (half of which I didn't even know I was pregnant and blamed on lack of exercise, diet etc)., But really, no bits of me dropped out, I didn't get any pain, dragging or any of things I was nervously awaiting. And, now it's awesome, i don't even have a POP (a short reprieve, but by god I'm enjoying it!)
So, go for it! And even if it does get worse, the probable worst that could happen is you might need a pessary for a few short weeks, what's that compared to the joy of holding your new baby in your arms?

Me, i'm more worried about the state my vagina will be in after the birth, but that's another post!

So ,yeah, go practise, have fun ;-)
Emma

granolamom

July 27, 2010 - 9:47pm

ok, so I've had two since finding my POP.
right after I discovered how wonderful firebreathing could be (and only soon after finally starting to see progress) I went and got pg with baby #4.
and then pg#5 happened soon after figuring out nauli.
I was not happy to stop with those exercises, I'll tell you. not happy at all. very worried.
only thing that got worse was my rectocele, which is normally completely asymptomatic (if I dont' go looking for it I'd never know it was there) and I attribute that to my pathetic diet during early pg (white bread and cheese...I know...but its the only stuff that stays down) and constipation.
by the time the morning sickness eased up, my recto was gone.
at the very end of pg #4 the cystocele got bulgy, but felt more like the whole area was just swollen. pg #5 was pretty much fine iirc.
and my baby is almost 9 mo and I'm pretty much at my prepg baseline.
do not let prolapse stop you from having more babies.

bad_mirror

July 28, 2010 - 2:21pm

Thank you all! I've been employing Louise's "suck it and see" to many aspects of my life, so I guess I would apply the same to pregnancy. As for the postpartum recovery time, I've been able to glean a lot of good ideas from various posts, but might there ever be a permanent reference available -- a compilation of sorts? The more I have chewed things over in my mind, the more I agree with Christine's theory regarding postpartum development of pop. I may have had some pre-existing factors from a life in ballet, but I had the gentle, midwife-led unmedicated homebirth and had no inkling of pop until 5 weeks pp. What did happen was I had a entrance exam to study for, a wicked hemorrhoid, a tear that was not closing, and two sets of new grandparents and an awesome DH who did everything for me for about three weeks while I parked in a big comfy sofa. I shudder at the thought now! Anyway, long story short, I felt sooo prepared for birthing that I neglected to think ahead to the postpartum, and I know it will be different next time, god willing. Again, many thanks for the experiences presented here!

oh_mum

July 29, 2010 - 5:32pm

I'll be looking for your posts, as I am in a similar boat. I'm thinking we'll start trying for #2 this fall. :)

alemama

July 30, 2010 - 4:34pm

but then isn't the whole dang first trimester kinda blah anyway?
elbows and knees can feel good (and you won't have annoying heartburn to stop you).
Then your uterus will pop forward and it will be smooth sailing for about 5 months.
and then the last few weeks hit (which, again, are kinda blah anyway) and you will rest more.

1. stay active. can you swim?
2. stay hydrated.
3. keep your pelvis mobile- like cat/cow yoga positions

and I agree, support if you need it- pessary or whatever you want to use