I'm new here

Submitted by cheery on April 10, 2011 - 3:18pm
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I'm new here.I'm 29 yrs.old and by the grace of Almighty had a baby boy in january and a very traumatic delivery with forceps ,second degree tear and extended episotomy.I had lot of internal stitches and suffered from post partum heamorrhage too.I was on catheter for 1 week as couldnot urinate and there was no success after that so was taught self catheterisation.Thank God my bladder recovered after 3 weeks of self catheterising.I was put on iron tablets and codeine which made me constipated.I knew since the beginning that there was something wrong as i had lot of heaviness whenever i stand.I went to GP and she said i ve got infection and she put me on strong antibiotics for a week.When i went back to her she told me that my swab test showed no infection and she referred me to the gynaec.By then i had done lot of research n self diagnosed that i have a prolapse.I visited the gynaec n told her about the bulge and she told me that there was no prolapse n referred me to the Obstetrician to undergo another surgery for revising that area as i had excess of painful scar tissue.I didnt trust her n In the meantime i ordered for the book n dvd.i'm 12 weeks post partum now.i met the Obstetrician n i was glad that atleast she diagnosed my prolapse or else my family members ld ve thought i'm a hypochondriac.She told me that ive got a cystocele but i feel i ve got uterine prolapse as well as i can feel my cervix really low.Anyways she wasnt concerned about it n dismissed it as a common cold or flu.She told me to start physio n its too early postpartum to ve a surgery for scar tissue n asked me to stop thinking about my pelvis and take it out of my head n it ld eventually get better.
Well it is not that easy for me when i can feel the bulges almost near the opening.I cried a lot n was feeling guilty for not opting for an elective c section as i had a c section for my first one four years ago n my recovery was very good n i was on my toes within few days.
This is my story .Thanks for listening.i ve read few posts here n found the posts very helpful ,informative n very supporting.I ve also received the book n dvd n i ve started working on it n i'm sure if Almighty wills "THIS TOO SHALL PASS".
Just had few questions:
i really enjoy doing firebreathing n nauli.but after doing it i feel that my scar tissue hurts.can doing fb n nauli with excess of scar tissue lead to endometriosis?
i ve got a duplex house with 15 stairs.can climbing the stairs on a daily basis worsen my prolapse?
thank you

louiseds

April 10, 2011 - 10:13pm

Hi Cheery

There is no doubt about it. Giving yourself a happy username is one step along the way. I can see that you want to be optimistic and this is another step you can take. However, when you don't get progress it can make for frustration, and we don't want that.

It's tough when a birth doesn't go well, and you feel it is your fault for not opting for CS. It is not your fault, and CS has its own set of real and potential problems, so just give up on beating yourself up for making a bad choice, which it may or may not have been. (((cheery))). Be gentle on yourself. The female body is designed to birth vaginally, but sometimes it does go unexpectedly wrong. No doubt about that. I would suspect that this first vaginal birth could have proceeded more normally with better labour 'management' and obstetric 'management', which often causes problems, rather than avoiding them, but we will never know now. It sounds like you had a b*&$$%^ of a time, and suffered for a long time after the birth.

Prior to this birth your body had already stretched and grown in your first pregnancy, but your vaginal tissues had not been stretched by a previous birth. It was the first 'birth', as far as your vagina was concerned! Many, probably most, women find that their POP is traceable to the first birth, if they have had babies. It usually does not get worse for the second and subsequent births, and yours will probably not get any worse if you have more babies.

Good on you for doing your own research. Ultimately we all need to be able to know what is going on in our own bodies, before somebody else can guide us in how we deal with it. And that is what a healthy-doctor patient relationship is all about, educate and help to heal. It is your body, not your family's or the doctors'.

Your obstetrician is right in one respect, though. Your body will continue to revert from this pregnancy and birth for at least two years, even if you do nothing at all. You have just reached the month when PP POP does often worsen, for one reason or another. Your healing may not progress at all for another 3-6 months. This is normal. Then towards the end of your first PP year you will start to see improvement. Don't be dispirited about this. It would be remiss of me to say otherwise. It is simply what often happens. The light at the end of the tunnel is not an oncoming train. I, and many other women have seen it, and it eventually gets brighter. You are right."This Too *Will* Pass.

So glad you have purchased the Dvd and book. You are now equipped to manage this yourself, and we will help you.

You will manage the stairs. Going up will be good. You might want to try coming down backwards or sideways, (holding on, of course, and looking up) for the next few months when your POP may be at its worst. This is just a thought. It will mean that you can stick your butt out a bit on the way down as well as on the way up, which will keep your pelvic organs forward and off the top of your vagina. I think it is coming down stairs forwards that causes POP problems because you have to tuck your butt in, keep your centre of balance back to stop yourself falling forwards, and tend to look down to see where you are going. This causes a hunch. Try it out, front, side and backwards, and report back.

You will have thighs of steel, and well-developed muscles all around your hips. This is good.

Use the Search box at left to look for Stairs, Caesarian or Cesarian Section, Endometriosis, and other keywords to find posts. Stairs and steps have been discussed quite a lot.

I will leave others to comment on nauli and firebreathing. I don't really do either of them.

Sadly you have arrived just as Alemama is due to give birth and Granolamom is off on a big journey, but there are lots of other Mums, eg Kiki, and Liv, who have had similar experiences with PP POP and have come through it OK in time. I am sure that these, and other Mums will post and express this improvement.

Right! Chest up, relaxed lower belly (for your uterus and bladder to shelter against) and show those beautiful boobs to the world. Proud, positive and confident!

Louise

christinabf

April 11, 2011 - 9:52am

We have very similar birth trauma. I also VBAC'd my second. Read my first post here - I had very similar feelings of guilt about choosing the vaginal birth. It is now nine months later and I have been doing all kinds of therapies to help my prolapse and continuing urinary urgency problems. My prolapse is not gone, but it is higher than it was when I first discovered it, and I've managed to let go of a lot of my guilt. Feel free to email me if you want to discuss anything.