Hi every one... Been a while

I am not sure if I can help with the vagina filling with air but I to suffer with vaginal air bubbles that happens usually right before I feel pelvic pressure and a horrible burning sensation. I have a rectocele/cystocele and not quite sure what grade they both are. Recently the last few weeks I went through what I call a relapse and it felt really bad to the point that all I wanted to do was lay down to relieve it. I know what you are going through with the depression and I just want to say that I understand you. If you think that maybe anti depresents help then maybe you should give it a try. For me I try and not use anything but instead dive into research and WW workouts. Also, I notice that when I consume Omega 3 it helps with both body and mind. Hang in there, I wish you all the best and give you lots of prayers and hugs. I also am (fairly young) 35 with two very small children in which requires me to be quite active. Again, I hope things will get better for you.

Hi Jessie Girl

This symptom is not one I know anything about I'm afraid, but I'm sure there is a whole woman who does.

Just wanted to say I'm sorry you've been feeling so down. I don't mean to sound patronizing or minimize anything that you are feeling, but I just wanted to share my memory of being very young and in my first sexual relationship. I felt so self-conscious about my body and what I felt was wrong with it. It is an age where we feel very vulnerable - it's a bit different when your partner is someone who has held your hand in childbirth, argued with you over bills, mopped up children's sick and agonized over school parents' evening with you. The intense focus on having a perfect body seems a whole lot less important than a sense of humour and loyalty.

Don't rush to get old like me though - there is still a lot of enjoying being young to come. This honestly won't make the big difference to your life that you feel it will because you will learn how to control it.

Hugs

Doubtful

Hi Jessie-girl

I have just fallen for the oldest trick in the book. I just discovered that my most recent post to you seems to have not posted. I must have forgotten to click Save. So ...

We have discussed "air in the vagina" in the past. Try the Search box to find the posts about it. Try "vaginal air" and "air bubble" as well. You certainly are becoming very aware of what is happening in your body. That is great!

Some women seem to have a genetic disposition to POP. It may be that they have intrinsically weaker fascia. If this is so you would expect stretched ligament injuries, hypermobility of joints, and other signs that the stuff that holds you together is more distortable or doesn't heal back to norrmal tightness. Google "Connective tissue disorder" to find out about this. Has your Mum ever told you that she has POP, or bladder continence difficulties?

I am also wondering how sexually experienced you are, ie does this happen with all partners? And have you tried different positions for coitus? Woman on top gives you some control over the position of your body, and more control over your own stimulation. It also enables you to maintain your lumbar curve, lift your chest (which tightens your belly), and tighten your pelvic floor. You will make your own friction in this position, and you are in control of how hard thrusting is, and where the stimulation is in your body.

You have a right to enjoy sex as much as your partner. It is a matter for negotiation. My male friends tell me that they would much rather have an active sexual partner than a human sex doll who doesn' t take an active role in sex. These active girls go after what they want. If the guys think all the activity is all for their satisfaction, then let them keep thinking that way! ;-)

I can remember at your age having vaginal farts before having babies. Yes, it was a bit embarrassing at times, but a thoughtful partner will not judge you for it. I don't know how many men you have slept with, but they all seem to fart a lot. I can't see the difference really. ;-) Vaginal farts are not smelly, that's for sure!

Doubtful is also very thoughtful, in pointing out the importance of the acceptance of each other's bodies after loving each other for a long time. New, ie young, relationships don't have that degree of confidence and security. That will come in time. A partner who is worried about vaginal farts has all his priorities wrong, perhaps through immaturity. They usually grow up by about age 30, but there are men out there who never seem to. And they often don't have a very good relationship history.

We older women have all had to be very forgiving of young males who are only out after their own enjoyment, until they grow up and realise how rude and self-defeating it is to be sexually selfish. To give is to receive. If you don't give, then ...

Louise

Yes, I had this happen to me quite a lot & I only noticed it happening after the birth of my 2nd child. Which was also when I discovered my POP. I figured it was just due to all the new "roominess". I have had it happen not only during sex, but also when just going about my daily life. I haven't had it happen in quite sometime during daily life. It would happen if I bent over to pick something up or squated. Anytime I guess I could have moved to "capture" air. I notice it more during sex depending on position. I am NOT anywhere close to understanding POP or how it all ties together. BUT wanted to say, Yes, I have had it happen & you are not the only one.....

Doubtful, thank you for that reminder. It is true that in the beginning of a physical relationship things are so different. Jessie, my heart goes out to you. I remember capturing air in my vagina during sex- before children (B.C. lol). It happened mostly with penetration from the back and only if my butt was higher than my head. So all fours- I don't remember feeling embarrassed about it- but I was puzzled at the time as to why it happened (and concerned because I had read that your partner should not be permitted to blow air into your vagina - can't remember why that was not good- but it seemed dangerous- so I worried that pulling air in could be a problem) so I tried to avoid that position.
Now I know what causes it and I can draw air in if I want to and also prevent it from coming in if I want to. There is one yoga pose that I simply can't prevent it from happening. It's downward dog- then you take one leg and lift it to the ceiling- and then bend it at the knee. Air pulls in- happens every time!
Basically the vagina is a collapsed tube. Some positions can cause the vaginal walls to separate. When they do it causes a little vacuum action and air pulls in. With pelvic organ prolapse you still mostly have a collapsed tube- but sometimes there is a shifting in the bulges and you get the same opening up of the tube and pull air in. With pop, you can think of the tube as being less sealed up.
I find that when my body is in great shape and very muscular this pulling air in thing hardly ever happens. I know most people don't want to go to the extremes I am willing to go to- but I have a theory that if you can strengthen your entire body and eliminate excess fat, prolapse is much less noticeable. It is tricky because to get to that level of fitness you must be extremely active and lift a good bit of weight and that is hard to do when you first discover prolapse. But once you have been in posture for a while you can get confident enough to hit it pretty hard if you want to.
Oh and ! you probably could fit a tennis ball in there. Isn't that amazing? It's a good thing and not to worry. The great thing is that you are learning so much about your body and what it can do.
Take the meds if you think you need them, but know that feeling sad about pop is completely normal! We are conditioned to shut out our real feelings and that is such a shame. If you feel sad there is nothing wrong with that. As long as you are not in that scary dark place where you are a danger to yourself go right ahead and just feel what you need to feel.
Last piece of advice- start having sex with yourself. Find out what works and why- then you can teach your partner how to please you :)