New here. Is this a prolapse.

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Just wondered if anyone has advice for me. I am going to go and see my dr as I've been putting it off but enough is enough. I'm 28 have 3 children, I'm small built, 5ft 2in. I had my 1st child at 19 and he was 10lbs.. He was a forceps delivery. My other 2 were also 9lbs. To be honest I can't remember what it looked like "down there" before my children were born so Im not sure what's normal and what's not.

So basically there is a fleshy bulge at the entrance of my vagina kinda looks like a tennis balls sitting there. It feels like that too, sex is uncomfortable afterwards and I feel so sore and irritated after it, like thrush without the discharge. I have bad constipation too, I feel the urge to go but it feels like something is preventing me going properly. I get alot of pelvic pain but I'm not sure if this is from the constipation or not. I get pain and pressure in my vagina and bum too. It's all awful and so depressing.

Any ideas girls?

Carrie xx

Hi Carrie,

As another mum who has had large babies - I had 4 children, with largest being nearly 11lbs - we have something in common. However, my children are nearly all adults now.

Your description of a fleshy bulge is a prolapse of some sort. Your visit to the dr will I think confirm this is the case. I hope your doctor will have time to talk things through a little, as mine didn't when I finally decided it was time to see a professional in January this year. I got a quick check on the couch, then referral to a consultant 6 months later. Likewise I'm afraid the consultant's visit was short and sweet - go for surgery or physio (pelvic floor exercises).

I came home from both appointments determined to carry out what self help I could to carry on with as normal a life as possible.

Here are a few hints> Regarding sex: plenty of foreplay to create your own lubrication, and extra help with KY gel shoud make everything much less sore in that area.

Constipation - very common, look at your diet, and perhaps take a laxative. I'm still working out what is best for me - I'm not overweight and eat plenty of fruit and veg but still have problems with bowel movements. Decided it might be lack of magnesium in the water - so am trying taking magnesium. Golden rule is don't strain at the toilet, better to wait.

Wear loose clothing, and most of all do your best to keep in WholeWoman posture throughout the day - get Christine's First Aid for Prolapse DVD if you can. Having a prolapse means adaptations, but it is NOT the end of the world. You will get to know your body better.

If you follow csf's threads, she has had very good results after initial struggles. there are other success stories. I am on the journey, mainly I manage fine (teaching on my feet 3 days a week), but am careful not to lift heavy weights. i have started taking books to mark at home in a wheely trolley (the kids ask me if i'm going on holiday!!)

There is a lot for you to absorb here - and I guess others will pitch in with ideas. Hope the dr visit goes well, and come back to the forum whenever you need to. Also you can search a topic eg constipation to see how other members manage.

Thinking of you and all the best

marigold

Thank you marigold

So nice of you to reply in such length. I really appreciate it. This is so embarrassing to me and I feel so horrible. Silly I know but I do. I shall do all your tips. And book my drs appointment next wk. I will update what she says. Doubt physio will do anything as this has been going on for years. So are the other options just surgery? How successful is that? So many questions.. Sorry!

Anyway good luck on your journey. Hops your having a lovely weekend.

Carrie x

hello and welcome to the site
I agree with everything marigold wrote to you, she gave you some good tips.
YES there are other options besides surgery...that is what Wholewoman is all about! how successful is it? VERY! see if you can find the faqs on the home page here. read as many posts as you can. try to learn the posture. come back with any and all questions you have.
this is not a 'quick fix' but a management program that has reversed many of our symptoms. for me personally, I went from a very symptomatic stage 2/3 urethrocele/cystocele to probably a stage 2 but I am nearly completely asymptomatic. I say nearly because I am feeling a bit bulgy today but havent in years. today, I think its because I've been run down and not taking good care of myself and not paying attention to my posture.
but really, I havent had any symptoms since my baby was about six months old (she's turning two soon). and by the way, that baby was the second baby I had AFTER finding my prolapse. so yeah, very successful!!

Hello

And thanks for the reply. Sorry you ate dealing with this also. I will read all the info and look into it all. I know it's impossible but I want want a quick fix.. No such thing I know. I've read about pessarys but don't even know if that's a possibility for me yet. Is the pelvic pain and pressure quite normal??

Carrie x

hi carrie
the pelvic pressure is very common with prolapse. it was my most annoying symptom.
personally, I have never had outright pain due to prolapse, although others here have reported that they have experienced pain. so I guess it is normal.
ya know, years ago, I also wanted a quick fix. but now, it took me a while to figure out why you were even saying "sorry you are dealing with this also" because I dont feel like I'm dealing with anything more annoying that having to wear eyeglasses when I drive. its fine, I hold my posture up and take good care of my body and get on with living my life. its really no biggie anymore

That's great I'm pleased for you. Least I know it's not all bad. I just feel my bowel is so packed all the time that it hurts & hurts.. Not unbearable pain but just noticeable.

Carrie x

Hello and welcome Carrie97. I understand how you feel regarding your bowel as i had a lot of problems in this area but now it is getting less and less. At first i tried everything, you name it i tried it. It wasn't until i tried magnezium powder in a glass of juice or water at bedtime that i got heavenly relief the next morning. Slippery elm powder is good too, and so is a glass of warm prune juice with some prunes added. Prunes and prune juice is a natural bowel stimulant. Try it and see how you go. I found the magnezium powder worked the best for me.
Good luck and let us know how you go.

Thanks so much for that really appreciate it. Will give it a go.

Carrie x