feeling pretty bad tonight, looking for words of encouragment : (

Body: 

Hi, I'm now 8 weeks pp (discovered pop @ 3 wks). Today everything seems so much bulgier and uncomfortable. Both cystocele and rectocele are right at the entrance and I'm thinking it won't be long before they are both completely out. Now this scares me sooo much. At this stage I don't see how they can improve? Have had thrush this week too so this is adding to my downbeat mood. Have ordered the book and dvd so I'm waiting (impatiently) for them to arrive! Just feel like my life is on hold at the moment and that I can't fully enjoy my gorgeous baby : ( Has anyone with this degree of pop seen improvement? I feel like a hopeless case.
Jellybaby83

You are so far beyond a helpless case it's not even funny! You are going to get better and better. I promise. If you are willing to do this work your improvement will be nothing short of amazing. Know that 8 weeks postpartum is SOSOSOSO soon. You would heal to a point better than what you are looking at now if you did NOTHING at all. But with whole woman you are going to do even better than that. You are going to stabilize your prolapse and watch it get better over the next two years or so.
Listen, forget about your vagina for a while. Love that baby! this is just going to be a little blip on your radar after a while. Don't let it get bigger than it needs to get. Baby is the big blip!

Hi Jellybaby

What you are experiencing is very normal. At the moment the thrush will be adding further inflammation, and will be making you feel very vulnerable and irritable. I can understand you feeling very down about it and wish it would all just go away. Taking some action over the thrush will help you to recover from this. What are you doing about it?

Alemama is absolutely correct. You - will - get - better. That's what happens. Your body will still be reverting for two years after this pregnancy. You just need to pull up into Wholewoman posture (keeping your lumbar curve intact, look after your diet, don't squash your belly with tight clothes, etc to keep the symptoms from getting worse, for the next few weeks, after which (about 3 months pp) experience tells us that your symptoms will gradually start becoming 'less worse'. That's just the way it goes.

I posted about this next factor yesterday, but will repeat it briefly.

When we have little babies and kids I think we go into tunnel vision, and concentrate so hard on doing the best for them that we lose perspective on the future and the possibility of change, even though logic tells us it will not always be like it is. As our kids get older we widen our horizons, as they widen theirs, and develop a more balanced perspective. I may be completely nuts, but I can see it in my past selves, now my kids have grown and flown the nest and I can see a bigger picture. You will be a very different young woman in twelve months time, in a good way. Don't argue. Just believe in it, and your ability to heal. (((jellybaby)))

Louise

:-)

Thank you both for taking the time to reply to my post. Just reading your comments has given me that bit of hope I needed. I'm going to try and stop with the self pity and focus all my energy on my gorgeous boy and healing myself, cause let's face it, time goes way to quick and I'll never get back these precious 1st few months with my baby again.

The work here is amazing! If I hadn't have discovered the site I would be a crumbling ball of mess right now! Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Jellybaby

yep, alemama's right, things will get better!
the thrush is probably making this all so much worse than it *really* is. you'll find that with POP, there are temporary setbacks, think of this as your first one. but also know that after a setback, we get back to our baseline pretty quick and then continue our progress.