Hello Again!

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I have not posted awhile being this summer was so busy and fun spending time with the kids! I have been recovering wonderfully! 5.5 mo post partum now. I quit the qym and lifting wieghts and now started swimmimg a bit and biking- always in the ww posture! There is still moments when I have a wierd feeling down there, but I have to think back to what I have been doing... and most of the times its if I have lifted something heavy. So, now I hand the lifting over if I can.

Its amazing to me that I have now become so aware of my body and how I move and how I breathe! Thx to this great site. But I still, have not quite figured out this sex thing. Reading the forums, it seems that most everyone has great results, but I end up with quite significant pressure afterwards. I need to lie down for awhile afterwards. I will try new posistions again. Anyone else get this?

Also, I feel like I have finally quit looking down there on a daily basis and feel so happy and content. Not so scared for my future with prolapse. I just hope and pray my prolapse will remain the same and not get worse.

This is a great site and a wonderful spot to let feelings out!

Hi busymama,
What sort of prolapse(s) do you have?

I have cyst/rect with more minor uterine and I have to say sometimes sex is great for them, and other times not so much. I was thinking about this the other day and wondered whether sex would be better for repositioning the uterus rather than the others. In trying to picture what would be going on, I was thinking maybe the bladder might get caught on the wrong side of the head of the penis and end up getting dragged down rather than pushed up. Does that make sense? If this is the case, maybe trying to manually reposition the bladder before intercourse might work (sexy thought I know!). Anyway I might give it a go. I'm sure others will have some thoughts and ideas.

Good to hear about the great progress you have been making. When it comes to the big one......

Yes, I have to agree with Curiosity. The way I see it, the penis’ piston like action means there is a dragging down as well as a pushing up. So I guess the final withdrawal of the penis can mean a dragging down.

And the pushing up only happens if the penis is positioned directly in normal conjunction with the uterus. When the uterus is prolapsed, it can be in any position within the vulva and vagina. So the penis bumping into its side can be just as likely to happen as hitting the target through its smiley. Any guy in this situation who can hit the smiley target blind folded every time would be a genius.

If in the missionary position, you on your back, your partner on top, you raise your knees, the soles of your feet on the mattress, you should be able to draw your uterus up by a process similar to kegeling in preparation for the introduction of the penis.

But hey you are only 33 years old and a few months postpartum. It will get better. Once you have your newest littlie independently crawling or walking on two feet, you will have some more time to yourself to rest and avoid lifting heavy, working hard. I know most people like doing these things as an extension of an otherwise good, strong body. But just for a little while longer curb you impatience. Trust in the process that WW posture provides. At your strong, healthy age it is an eminently winnable proposition.

Best wishes Fab

So glad you are feeling wonderful!!! I bet your baby is just delightful right now. I love when they start sitting up and trying to crawl and getting those bottom baby teeth.

I had to laugh when you said you needed to lie down after sex. My modus operandi is to start lying down and not have to get up at all ;) So lazy! I know. Maybe try it though. Restful, therapeutic sex. See what happens if you make it all about you feeling good.

Yeah, we are actually able to enjoy it, and allowed to enjoy it. What is it worth if we can't/don't enjoy it???

It doesn't have to be a big effort. Once you can get your brain to visualise where everything is in your pelvis you will find it easier to work out what will work for you and what will not. It is not all about penetration!

L