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Submitted by bird-fishlover on February 18, 2013 - 4:46pm
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Three weeks ago, I gave birth to my second child. The birth went great, about a twelve hour labor, I only had to push twice, no tearing, water birth,...ect. As soon as I had my beautiful little girl in my arms I thought, "Dang, that was easy, I could do this ten more times!". A couple minutes after I thought that, I started birthing the placenta, that's when things started going down hill. Not only did my placenta come out, but so did my cervix and part of my uterus. My midwife said she had no idea why or how that could have happened because I had none of the "risk factors". I'm only 21, I have never had a medicated birth, both births were pretty easy, and I'm not overweight. Anyway, she also said that after she pushed my uterus back up, it retracted good on it's own. I was put on bed rest though for the entire six week postpartum recovery, and, of course, have been researching a lot about prolapse. Luckily, I found this sight, and it has already given me a lot of hope and comfort. I do have a few concerns and fears still.

I am terrified that my uterus will fall back out; in fact, I've had a couple nightmares about it. How do you guys deal with the fear?

Some days I get depressed because my husband and I really want to have a lot more children, but I feel like I'm broken. What if I get pregnant really soon, will I "break" more?

I think I get the most scared when I have to defecate. What are some good positions to effectively empty everything out?

I have what feel like round ligament pains when I move around or walk. Is this normal after giving birth or is it related to my prolapse?

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granolamom

February 18, 2013 - 9:40pm

welcome and congratulations on the new baby!
first, you are not broken. not at all. I had two babies after learning that I had a prolapse and mine did not 'go back in and retract on its own'.
next, the more you learn about the causes and management of prolapse the less fear you will have. the best thing you did was to come here, the posture will help keep your uterus where it belongs for the rest of your life.
I had round ligament pain like you describe after each of my babies, even without uterine prolapse.
you are wise to worry about defecating, eat well to prevent constipation (and drink plenty too, especially if you are breastfeeding) and do not strain on the toilet. if you can squat a bit and lift your bum so that you arent pushing against the toilet seat, thats a good thing too. I havent been around here in a long while, but I'm sure a search would bring up some more tips. I remember a member (memyselfandI) said she would do some deep breathing on the toilet and kinda twist a bit to the right instead of straining.
and really, you can still have lots and lots of babies : )

Surviving60

February 19, 2013 - 4:43pm

Hi bird-fishlover. Congrats on your little one. I've heard of this before, so I guess you aren't the first to experience it. Very unnerving though! Wow. Keep in mind now, that the post-partum recovery period can go as long as 2 years, during which time your body will be doing various healing-type things, helped along by you. The best thing you can do between now and your next pregnancy is to adopt Whole Woman posture and help keep the uterus and everything else (it's all attached) held towards the front of the body. I'm unclear as to whether or not they are calling it a prolapse now. But it doesn't even matter - start the posture! Read up and ask questions. Good luck to you. - Surviving

bird-fishlover

February 19, 2013 - 6:59pm

Thank you granolamom and Surviving60 for reading and commenting on my post. I feel a whole lot better! The whole woman posture is definitely something I will be trying to master in the next weeks or months or however long it takes me to get it right. I'm glad the round ligament pains are normal, that means they'll go away eventually. Thank you for the tips on defecating, I think I will be a lot less scared next time. I am so glad that I can still have lots more babies!! :)