New baby and feeling sad...

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I am 27 years old and a mom to a toddler and a newborn. I need help in understanding my prolapse. I had no idea that a prolapse was a possible outcome of a vaginal delivery. Before having my first baby, my worst fear (aside from concerns for baby's health) was having a severe tear or having to undergo an emergency c-section. I thought I did everything right by doing kegels when I was pregnant. At the time of my first delivery, while stitching me up, the OBGYN had commented that I had no pelvic floor damage from the delivery, so I'm not sure why I still developed a prolapse.

I am 7 weeks post-partum and I definitely have that bulge sticking out of my vagina. I had the same thing after my first delivery however I was in denial about it and I don't know if it ever resolved itself. Is this a temporary state or an indication of something permanent? I am very worried.

will tell, but for most woman postpartum, pelvic organ prolapse is temporary. But there is nothing like feeling that you are in charge, and that is why Wholewoman is such a god send. It enables you to manage prolapse and improve its condition, and work for your future so that prolapse after your child bearing years will not return with the onset of menopause.
Seven weeks postpartum is very early days, so if you start adopting WWposture at this stage, you know that you are doing the best thing you can do to help yourself. Being in denial is a natural reaction to things, but now you are facing up to it, and that also is a natural progression as well. Next step is working on the problem.
I was a little confused when you said your obgyn was stitching you up and yet was saying that you had no pelvic floor damage from the delivery. Does that mean you had an episiotomy?
Glad you found us. Being worried is good, as it spurs you to action. Now you have acted perhaps you can worry less, and enjoy your babies knowing you can beat this.
cheers, Fab

Hi Canadianmommy, welcome to WW. I experienced what Fab has just described. I had two large babies, and I felt somewhat bulgy after each one. This didn't strike me as strange at the time, and I was never one to examine my privates much. Life went on for a few decades, and then shortly after menopause, my prolapse became rather suddenly evident. Now, 3 years into doing this WW posture work, I am managing my prolapse just fine; but like many of us here, I've often wondered if I could have avoided this if I'd known about this posture correction at your age.

So please, don't ignore this wake-up call. Adopt the posture and take this issue head-on. This is not just about prolapse but also for the benefit of your spine and hips as you age. It is huge. Do this while you're young. Get started - it takes time, something you don't have a lot of right now. But you can do it. - Surviving

PS, if you haven't already, go to Videos under the Resources tab, and watch the first one. Do this soon!

Stitching me up after a tear... With my first I had a tear of the labia... My first delivery ALMOST ended in an emergency c-section but I asked the OBGYN to allow me to labor longer... But now I am semi-regretting that decision.

It is good to hear that this might be temporary. My babies were 8 pds 6 oz and 10 pounds 6 oz. I am kicking myself for going to 42 weeks with each pregnancy. I felt exhausted carrying that 10 pound baby but with the encouragement of my OBGN I tried to go as long as possible. However I still ended up needing an induction each time. I had a strong feeling that I would never go into spontaneous labor.

I will order the material and I've already started doing the posture. But I have a two year old that I do lug around quite a bit and I can't imagine NOT lifting her up.

Canadianmommy, your toddler can no doubt climb, and you and the baby can also get down to Toddler Level. I am sure that your toddler would like you being on her level. Hey, getting up and down is great for strengthening your leg muscles!!! ;-)

There is a lot that you can think your way around.

BTW, emergency CS is I think a term that simply means 'not planned'. If it was a real emergency there would have been no option of continuing with the vaginal birth! The thing about modern childbirth practices is that they are getting so good at CS's that they are losing the skill involved in observing a woman birthing vaginally and being in charge of her own body. They just feel like they have to be in control, like they don't want people doing their own brain surgery. It is so crazy!

I am so glad you went ahead with the vaginal birth. You would have had an awful lot more stitches, had you had the CS! CS is a good way of getting a really distressed baby out quickly, but medical people get so dramatic about it. They want to save women from normal bodily functions, They want to make a normal process into major abdominal surgery and create a scarred uterus which will create question marks next time around.

Louise

Canadianmommy, I am in a similar position as you, and know how you feel. I have mild prolapse, 1 year post partum, 22 years old, and had a vaginal birth. However, I had an amazingly smooth birth experience. All natural 5 hour labor, pushed for 10 minutes, and was 39 weeks and had a beautiful 7 lb. baby girl. I only had a little pitocin at the end. Seems perfect right? I noticed prolapse 6 weeks pp and made it a lot worse for the next 6 months because I did not know what it was, and neither did the doctors I went to. It seems as if there is something else going on that causes prolapse besides simply the size of the baby, or vaginal birth versus a c-section.
I am hoping to ease your mind by telling you that the fact that you avoided a c-section is a wonderful thing. Any major surgery done to your body is usually not something that is un-doable, and always comes with a cost. It seems as if the more natural you go with a lot of things in life, the better.
It is hard to realize you have prolapse, it was scary for me too. But nothing has given me more hope (and results!) than God and the posture taught by Whole Woman. I hated those long months where I did not know why I kept having incomplete bowel movements and was never satisfied. The fact that you are aware of this so early in post partum time as well as early in your age is a huge blessing.
My only advice would be to try not to beat yourself up over the prolapse-you did what you thought was right and tried your hardest. Just research the whole woman posture, as well as the posts on all the the forums on this site.
I wanted to say one more thing, there is a safe way to pick up your toddler and various other things. Did you ever hear the "lift with your legs" lecture? It is spot on. If you need to pick something up bend down to the ground and then push up using your legs, having good posture the whole time. You need not worry about never picking up a child again :)
Good luck with everything!

Oceangirl is so right - much of the lifting you do can be done while keeping lumbar curvature in place. Lift and carry things close to your body. If you are really in good WW posture, the extra weight you are carrying can actually help stabilize the pelvic organs by keeping the vagina as a closed space. It works! - Surviving