Painful intercourse - questions

Welcome Trish!

I have no idea what your symptoms mean. I am not a women's care specialist and have no training in women's diseases other than prolapse.

It's my belief, however, that there are viruses still unknown and undetected by instrumentation. We can be cultured by non-sexually transmitted viruses on many places of the body, really anywhere on the surface of the skin, so why not that particular area? The intense pain and minute eruption sounds like the almost microscopic warty things I have on my elbow, upper lip, and one nostril. I put full-strength tea-tree oil on them and they greatly recede with only one or two applications, but then come back again weeks or months later. Also...I think old episiotomy scars become more tender, not less, as we age and our tissues thin. Find a good natural salve and see if that helps. And of course, begin the posture and get the pressure off your rectocele!

Wishing you well,

Christine

Christine, I think you are truly right on about episiotomy scars. I had three children and three cuts. Thinning tissues as we age is a distinct possibility. And with three cuts, that area is definitely compromised x3. I have been known to apply estrogen (from a health food store) to "plump" up the area. That seems to help and doing it x2 weekly. I think I also do that more for mental/body image. I find myself on the "pity potty" and less than attractive - also finding it hard to "age gracefully" with all the physical pitfalls that may come our way.

It's a good thing I am forced to go out of the house to an office, where I can become deeply engrossed with my duties.

The sad part of all of this is that I am young enough to remember what it was like without pelvic floor problems.

On a better note: I am firmly convinced global prolapses is a postural problem. And I feel better - almost too much better to become careless at times. Must reign myself in.

Sybille

Dear Sybille,

This work takes us right to the heart of what is most painful about being a human being...change, loss, impermanence. Letting go is the hardest work, but also the only way to freedom. The work takes us to the heart of what is marvelous about being human too...the God-given ability to create. Sometimes the only way we can change things is to change our view of them. I have chosen to move through life as much as possible trying to keep the physical form imprinted in my DNA. This is a personal choice...it just seems to me important somehow to honor the design I was born with. Then I just watch and see what shows up. Sometimes it's pain, sometimes sadness, sometimes exhaustion, sometimes bliss and sometimes overwhelming comfort and a deep sense of being whole, alive and well. The practice is about not trying to make anything happen, keep anything from happening, or reacting to what is going on in the body. Just stay in the posture as we move through our lives all the while trying to keep an attitude of reverence and thankfulness for what we were born with. Surgery always results in less to work with (from a physical standpoint...from a spiritual standpoint there is often much more "fodder" to work with in terms of pain and suffering.)

In Wholeness,

Christine