Hi My Pregnancy update...

Submitted by nicola on November 15, 2006 - 5:09am
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Haven't posted for some time, but still coming to the site each week and reading heaps. It is now hard to implement the posture, but still doing everthing I can. Certainly no straining and trying to maintain my upper posture. Trying not to lift my 2 year old unless necessary.

It sure has been a rollercoaster ride of a pregnancy. But I thought I would type an update on how I am going. I am now 34 wks pg, can't believe only 6 wks before baby is due. Everthing was going fine until at 14-15 weeks of my pregnancy, I had a prolapse, my cervix was hanging out of my vagina. At 18 weeks it went back up. I am till this day still experiencing heavyness and bulky, in the back of vagina. My doctor doesn't see any point in referring me to any specialist because "nothing can be done" because I am pregnant.I am not sure whether the bulky feeling I have is my vagina wall or varicous veins or what.

Emotionally as the date is getting closer I am getting extremely nervous, I feel so scared what is going to happen after the baby is born. But I feel as though when I go through this labour I will have my cervix poking out again, which was so bad I couldn't hardly stand up, having this and a new baby and my 2 year son would just be awlful, I am trying not to focus on that though, but all this uncertainty of what I will be like after this birth is so hard.
I have been told a cesear will not necessarily help as " damage has been done", but at times I cannot help but think I should have one, incase the birth goes wrong and I kicked myself for not just having a cesear. At the moment are planning a natural birth, as per my first birth, which was great.

Sometimes I feel like I am sitting on a timebomb and when the baby is born my life as I know it is over, as bubs is holding things up. As I have been pregnant all the whole time I have had a prolapse symtoms, I not been able to do anything cause I am pregnant has been frustrating. And it has been a bit of a shame the whole prolapse thing has overshadowed my pregnancy, but it certainly has and will continue to. I am trying to be strong so I will get through the labour and not be so worried about whats going to happen to me but this is easier said then done.

At I have this wonderful site especially after the birth. Thanks again, I probably needed to vent all that....:-|

bigmomma

November 15, 2006 - 6:51am

Hello,

So glad to hear from another preggers! I am not close to my date yet, I'm only 18 weeks along, but I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. I have a lot of heaviness in the back and sometimes wonder if it is my suspected rectocele, or just a low lying cervix and uterus. I have not been to a doctor (going the midwife route) but she seems to think my fundus and cervix are fine height wise. I know if I saw a doctor I would get the "nothing can be done now" speech as well. I know what you mean about being scared of what is going to happen after this one is born and your symptoms overshadowing the pregnancy. It is nice to hear that I am not the only one who is scared of the big day , especially this time with the prolapses. Bless you and good luck:)

MeMyselfAndI

November 15, 2006 - 7:18am

I am sure things will be ok - Remember in the post partum period things willprolyl feel like 'the end of life is nigh' But keep the faith

Before you go into labour I would urge you to think about pushing - I read this...
http://www.gentlebirth.org/archives/pushnot.html

About letting the body do the work and not doing ten ton of waste of time pushing for ages. When I had my daughter in 2002 I gave only one or two pushes (One i think) And she was born. This is mainly cos i was putting off the inevitable lol - But I also listened to my body and at the moment when 'YES YOU WILL PUSH' feelings arrived i KNEW 100% I had no choice cos my belly went rigid and I knew and was in no doubt that with next contraction pushing time was nigh.

hen you have had your baby - Take it easyyyyyyyy and rest rest rest, let your body recouperate (Which will be hard with 2 kiddies but let people help when they offer ok)

This site will be here and we will all be here as a bouncing board for your fears and feelings in your post partum period. And you can impliment the posture easier and get yourself tip top again :)

Good luck with your birth and meeting your new addition :)

Sue

UKmummy

November 15, 2006 - 8:44am

Lovely to hear from you Nicola!

You are doing great growing that lovely little baby! Think how amazing that is, and try to focus on that and not what might happen prolapse wise afterwards, although I imagine that is hard.

I am following your story eagerly and send you all good wishes and hugs. You will have that little baby in your arms before very long now............

Michelle. x

granolamom

November 15, 2006 - 12:01pm

I can't believe you are 34 weeks already! I hear you about worrying about the big day, and what will be prolapse-wise afterwards. It is the fear of the unknown, and really, there is no way to know how your prolapse will be postpartum.
I don't think a c-section will help you any, they have to cut through so much supportive tissue to get to the uterus, and that can't be good for prolapse either.
I wish I knew of a surefire way to ensure no worsening of prolapse during delivery, but I'm just going to try and let my body do its work. its all we can do really. I'm trying really hard to trust in the process, trust in G-d's design, and trust that I will cope with whatever comes my way. that said, I'll admit that I'm scared too.
do keep us posted, I was wondering how you were getting along, and I'm looking forward to hearing your birth story!

nicola

November 16, 2006 - 4:44am

I am working with the my doctor and midwives with a birth plan, all of them are being extremely understanding and helpful now. I know the first time I talked to my doctor when it first happened I felt so alone. I am blessed with all this knowledge I now how, mainly through this wonderful supportive site.

Thanks Sue, I have read the site you recommended along with books recommended earlier on this site and they have all been extremely helpful, the site has alot of interesting comments and information. It's a shame we didn't know all this before our prolapses, but it takes something like this to happen to make us wake up to alot of things. Especially the way births are handled, not really taking womens best interests into consideration at all.

I have real good days and bad like everyone else. My baby inside my is so active, never felt anything like it, kicking and punching quite painful at times. Bubs probably doesn't have much room, I am very petite and small. My first son was only 5 pound 14 ounces, full term! This baby is going to be on the small side again, but alittle bigger which is normal I think for a second.

Good luck you to all and especially to those who are pregnant, it is still an amazing time and feeling, I will certainly post updates and about the birth.

Nicola :-)

louiseds

November 16, 2006 - 7:09am

Hi Nicola

So glad your pregnancy is progressing well. How time flies. I so hope the end of the pregnancy and birth go smoothly for all of you. You're well-informed and positive. That's all you can do. The end of pregnancy often seems to be a time of anxiety and joyful expectation all mixed up together. We would not be human if it was not thus.

Hugs and love

Louise