Losses and gains

Submitted by a6a25725 on April 26, 2008 - 1:04pm
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I've been sitting here most of the morning feeling down
in the dumps,remembering all the things I have lost,(my husband,
my old dog and cat many friends etc.) Then I started remebering
some of the things I did with them. Long talks and pleasant events
with my husband, long walks with my dog, silly antics my cat used to do,
talks and other events with my friends, and I realized that I haven't
lost them except physically. My memories are still intact and I can pull
them out whenever I want.
Then I started to count my other blessings, my children,(biological
and otherwise),my rescue cats and many others too numerous too mention.
But most of all this web site from which I have gained much knowledge
and insights from all the wonderful ladies here and Christine. I
thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
I guess this is a lot of rambling but has helped me get out of the dumps.
It is a beautiful spring day here after a particularly dreary winter.
Spring does bring renewal and hope for better things and I am looking forward
to planting flowers etc. I am going to try something a little different
this year. I am going to plant some tomato plants that grow upside down.
Now, I am going to take advantage of this beautiful day and go for a long
walk. Probably one my dog and I used to take.
Regards to all,
Flora.

Christine

April 26, 2008 - 1:23pm

Thank you dear Flora and I hope you have a blessed day. Today is my dear husband's 60th birthday and all our children are in town to celebrate. We have two adorable baby girls who are enjoying playing together so much, three completely beautiful daughters who are having a slumber party - with babies - and a son and fiance who will be married in August. I have last minute errands to run, but then can bathe, get dressed and walk with dh the few blocks to dd's house where the three girls are creating the whole scene. Life is so precious so very impermanent...(((hugs, Flora)))

kit

April 26, 2008 - 1:45pm

Dear Flora, every time you post it feels as if something is
added to my heart. If that sounds sentimental and sloppy then
all I can say is it is the honest truth. Your sincerity and your
genuine care for others is just so evident. You are a blessing.

When I look out into the world, I see people like you at the heart of it.
I am thankful to WW for allowing me contact with ladies like you and so very
many others here. I was feeling a little melancholy today, and a bit too
thoughtful. Hope, thankfully, is never far under the surface for me and
finding your post just pulled it right back up to the full light of this beautiful day.
Hearts like yours feed pure love into the world.

Thank you for the lesson that love does remain after physical loss. Our dog
that we’ve had for 15 years just died. He was hurting more than not so I know
all is well with him now. Still, the places that he called his seem empty. I know
that soon the sweeter memories will override.

Thank you for replying to me yesterday. Your thoughts were right on target and
I am right there with you. Sorry I could not get back to post there.

I hope your walk was lovely and not lonely. I hope all your wonderful
memories and your own thankful, loving heart brought great and gentle comfort
to you. All my best, Kit

kit

April 26, 2008 - 11:40pm

I hope your husband enjoys his birthday. I'm sure it is precious to him to have his family gathered. Family times always fill me up with happiness. I wish you both such fullness. Kit

elleninala

April 27, 2008 - 10:40am

Flora, Kit, Christine --

Flora's post really helped us begin to see the sunshine -- together-- after a difficult passage where so much necessary truth got spoken. I now see WW as a real community where EACH of us, young, old, experienced posters and novice, post partum and post menopause, has a vital place, like a family.

In this community we sort of revolve around Christine, which is perfectly appropriate. This morning I'm at the coffee shop with my computer to work on proposals to new customers for my business, which I started in 1985 and which now has several employees. That is the area of my life where others revolve around me. That too is appropriate and I take care to remember that my business is not the whole of their lives but while they are at work, it's my job to keep them focused on the task at hand. All appropriate, we are all mature individuals, and it works beautifully. It's a big job for me but one I chose and would not be without.

The coffee shop is a fun place to get some work done while not feeling like I'm working. Of course right now I'm sort of goofing off, but really celebrating the beauty and blessings of life pointed out by you all. May we all of us in the WW community feel the blessings to life today.

Ellen

granolamom

April 27, 2008 - 10:26pm

I love your voice. I wish you lived next door, I'd love to walk with you.

curious to know how the tomatoes do upside down. been thinking of that for a few years but too lazy to try it.

Christine

April 28, 2008 - 11:09pm

Just checking in…the last of our tribe left today…TOO sweet – four beautiful children, two ethereal grandbabies, and a future daughter in law. Dh walked the babies for an hour and 45 minutes this morning (one in a backpack and the other in a stroller – he was thrashed by the time he got home!) so that the girls could attend wwfirebreathing and the dance workout. Entirely too much fun and a dream come true. Now it's just us and we are so glad.

Please know I am holding you all in a circle of love,

Christine

alemama

April 28, 2008 - 11:44pm

I really can not wait until my family is mature.....grandbabies. yummy!

a6a25725

April 29, 2008 - 1:27am

Had a great walk. Enjoyed the memories and the
fresh air and sunshine. Came home refreshed.
Gmom I'll let you know how the upside down tomatoes do
If I get half as many as the advertisement shows I'll
be able to keep myself and everyone supplied with tomatoes
for awhile.
Love to go for a walk with you.
Flora