Hi, new here, have a question about rectocele and sex

My hubby doesn't even notice the rectocele and for me it just has to be the right position to be comfortable. I wouldn't worry about it at all!!

Mine doesn't notice anything either. I've even asked him and he says he can't tell. I think it's more on your mind than theirs.

Hi Mouse

Welcome to this wonderful community. To cut to your question, yes you can have sex (and very good sex too!) with rectocele. The rectocele just moves out of the way with penetrative sex. The only time it can be problematic is if you allow yourself to become constipated, or if you are unable to empty completely when you have a bowel motion, so stool remains in the rectum and you get a sensation of fullness. This can be a little uncomfortable as a woman, but I doubt if a man would notice, or be worried about it. It would still feel just as warm and nice. ;-) I really think that the constipation would be much more uncomfortable than the sex. There are some different things that happen once you get near to orgasm, related to that bearing down urge, but by that stage, who's worrying??;-) As you so truly say, if he's not comfortable with your body ...

Once you become familiar with managing your rectocele much of the uncertainty and fear will dissipate. It just becomes another body part to manage, like toenails, teeth, eyes and hair. Just as we occasionally have a bad hair day, sometimes we are 'blessed' with a bad rectocele day. Eventually you will become confident that it will feel better again, and it does as long as you look after your body.

You will always have the rectocele but it doesn't have to affect your life much, and you may only be bothered by it occasionally as I am, and while it is difficult to compare 'celes it sounds as if yours is not as pronounced as mine.

When you visit the doctor don't be surprised if you come away with a diagnosis of cystocele and/or uterine prolapse as well. It is very common for women to have other prolapses and not even know about them. Equally, you may not have them. It may sound like I am suggesting that a doctor's visit is a negative thing, and that you may come away feeling like your pelvic contents are all over the place. Far from it. It is really important that you rule out other more sinister reasons for the lump in your vagina. Just be aware that the doctor may be more worried about you than you need to be. Also be aware that the grade of prolapse that the doctor may mutter under his breath has meaning for him in comparing to other patients but means little as far as you are concerned. Mine move around all over the place, during a monthly cycle, time of day etc, sometimes up and sometimes down, and I can make them more or less severe by the degree to which I bear down. All you really need to know is which organs are prolapsed and that there is nothing else in there pushing them out of position.

Keep calling back. Hope your book arrives soon, and that you have ordered the second edition which has the chapter with the detailed anatomical explanations for Wholewoman posture and other principles.

Cheers

Louise

there is a self exam article (with pictures even) and you can really understand what is going on if you read it and have a feel around

Glad you are feeling better-
thought I'd add to the number of women with a clueless man- he never notices-

Hi Alemama. Clueless. Interesting word. I guess POP is really irrelevant to most men. It doesn't really seem to impinge on their enjoyment of sex, even if the woman's vagina is looser than it was when the woman was pre-babies and pre-POP. I find that keeping the lumbar curve during penetration tightens the pelvic floor in the same way as WW posture tightens the pelvic floor, so even the loose vagina can be a bit of a myth, or at least no longer a monster that destroys sexual pleasure as you get older.

The fact that men haven't a clue about how POP affects a woman and her image of herself is probably a sign of innocence or naivety, rather than cluelessness. How could they have a clue? There seems to be no parallel experience for a man, save having their prostate removed and interrupting the erection process. Then they get all the sympathy in the world. Viagra seems to have pulled the teeth from that monster too.

Women indeed view their own bodies and their sexuality through very different eyes from men. I guess that is why men sometimes get very threatened by the things women say (that may be taken as implicit criticism), and don't trust women? My perception of men's attitudes towards sex are largely from the media and how I see men relating to women. DH can't/won't talk about it, so I have little choice, though I do have some rather interesting conversations (*only*) with open-minded men at parties. Sometimes I can get hints from DH by intense interrogation, but little else. I inherently distrust mass media so I don't really believe much that I read or see in the media, so in other words I am just as clueless about men's attitudes! And I guess I wouldn't be the only clueless woman in the world.

Cheers

Louise

Does sex with Rectocele hurt?

Hi babyblue and welcome,
If your rectoclele is causing your vaginal tissue to be exposed to rubbing or you have vaginal dryness, you could very well get some bleeding with this. You can apply some barrier cream to protect the area, or if it is vaginal dryness, apply the honey daily.
The best thing to do is get the rectocele to stay inside the vagina, and even better stretching it out with the whole woman posture, because with the posture, your pelvic organs are being pulled into the lower belly and the rectum is being stretched and pulled in that direction too.

Ok, now for the sex question. Some women have said that they have experienced some discomfort with sex and having a rectocele, but I am wonder with your original question of bleeding that you may have some rawness in there? And, maybe that is the cause of your pain. Have you tried lubricant with sex? Applying honey often can also soften the vaginal tissue which in turn could help with more comfort with the sex.
Also, changing sexual positions can help.

Thank you so much and sorry for bouncing around, II am not used the forum.