Requesting more moral support

This is big. This is a leap. A giant leap.
A kinda fun one too if you let yourself go there:)
I hate to recommend a glass of wine- but hey that's what I would do- (and then some probably, I am a total wuss).
He's only been around for about a week right? There is nothing that says you have to act fast unless you want to.

I hear you about protecting your heart. This kind of intimacy takes you to a deeper level in your heart and soul and the risk for injury becomes greater.
Take a deep breath, let it out and think about what it is you want.

Hi Dreamer

Hey, sounds great. And very scary. Just take it slow. You have the rest of our lives. It might help if you establish some negotiation tools. No doubt he is scared too. Men and women look and act differently when scared.

Let him know you want to explore further but don't want to be pushed. *And* ask him how he feels about it. You might not get a verbal answer though. You could stablish some signals together that you can both use when you feel that you want to pull back or go further. It might be particular gestures or special words that you choose together. If you have a framework for going along this path you might feel more comfortable about progressing. Like you don't go mountain climbing without ropes and attachment gear. You establish safe anchorage points on the way up, in case there is a fall. You plan the next bit of the ascent on the basis of what you know is ahead, and have strategies to fall back on if it turns out to be different. Of course you also have to remember that each step is a risk, but walking out the door to the shop to buy the newspaper entails risks too. That's my thoughts anyway.

And remember to observe all the normal safe sex practices.

BTW, my Dad courted my Mum for seven years before she would say yes to marrying him, but she was a war widow at the time. I doubt that there would have been any pre-marital hanky panky there. Mum was widowed 18 years after they married, and never remarried. I had sex with DH on our second date and we married 18 months later after a 12 week engagement. We split briefly after 25 years of marriage and are now happily back together. Sex is better for both of us than it has ever been.

Have fun.

Louise

"I hope you aren't expecting my down there parts to be as perky as they were 34 years ago, because, like my boobs, they've dropped. LOL."

That's how I'd handle it. Don't make a big deal, don't give him technical terms like "organ prolapse". When you're lying down it won't be very noticeable anyway. You could just not say anything about it and everything will likely be fine. He's not dumb, he's expecting differences. But if you're like me you're driven to blab about everything up front, so that's probably how I'd handle it. No "serious" conversation about it; nothing will kill the sexy faster than him feeling like YOU feel like you're broken.

Have lubricant on hand. How long has it been since you've had sex? If many years, expect some dryness or discomfort, it may be different than it was before.

I'm sure he doesn't look as he did 34 years ago either. our bodies change, in many ways.
personally, I wouldn't mention anything. I'd treat it as though it were a relatively common side effect of living. and *if* he notices and *if* he mentions it, I'd use a line from anne's book.
believe that its not a big deal and it shouldn't be.

good luck & have fun & protect that heart of yours.
'course I'm not the one to advise there, having very limited personal experience. dh was my first and not until the wedding night.

...my DH says he doesn't notice it at all, and like has already been said, it's different when you're lying down. I wouldn't say anything at all and just try to feel confident : )

Yay! Nice outcome.

L :-)