Leaving Wholewoman with no regrets

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on October 13, 2009 - 1:41pm
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I don't know how to put my feelings into words and anyhow I think Davi's post of August 12, 2009 says it best:

"Louise, your Country Womans' Association sounds so beautiful, motherly and feminine, unlike a certain Grandmothers' Group in New Mexico where I picture a large, bubbling witch's cauldron, filled with recently harvested men's testicles, into which the witches are adding turmeric and charparral. Thinking of you Lan.

Bowing to public pressure, and not wishing to be lumped in with Christine's gang of blood-thirsty witches, I will do as Alemama suggests and leave."

This last posting from the poison-pen of Louise is indicative of her small-mindedness. Is it any wonder, Christine, that your hysterectomy forum has not really seen the light of day? 'Hysterectomized' women indeed, how condescending and haughty you all are!

"Yes, I would love to have the chance to laugh joyfully in the face of my gyno but I haven't seen him since the day he told me he wanted my uterus out so he could hang my bladder on the stumps of the ligaments that were left."

I have a tiny cystocele, perhaps its a urethrocele, and an even tinier rectocele and some saggy tissue, all due to gravity and age. My uterus does not hang anywhere near my introitus as it was removed many, many years ago. I do not have a pear or apple shaped figure, in fact I am slender and have never been on a diet. I do not have a hump on my back. My orgasms are lovely. I could continue, but I won't bore you all anymore with my life. The reason I joined Wholewoman was to gain some insight into the anti-inflammation diet that Christine was talking about. However, since reading the blogs that 'locl 4ajr' linked to in her posts, I realise that Christine is a long way off from producing anything new.

I hereby take my leave.

Sue

louiseds

October 13, 2009 - 9:33pm

"O dear me", is all I can say.

I don't know what it is like to have had an hysterectomy for uterine prolapse because I declined a hysterectomy which would have been a prerequisite for cystocele repair.

I do not know what would have happened had Sue or any other member not had their hysterectomy. I think if I had found the Forums and discovered women like many of us who had declined hysterectomy and were managing our POP symptoms well I would feel really p***** off and betrayed that I was not offered the alternative of managing it myself and would also feel a bit jealous and regretful, even if I was quite satisfied with the result of the hysterectomy. I don't think any woman would consent to an hysterectomy if she could see a workable alternative.

Sue, these Forums are obviously not suiting you. I hope you have been able to gain something from them. Throwing negative comments about individuals into your posts lowers their tone. I do hope you have got it off your chest now. I can forgive you. We are all wounded in some way at different times. I am not you. You are not me. We have different opinions. I am sorry if you were offended by something I said, but I still maintain the right to say it. I promise that if I get repeatedly negative feedback I will examine my motives.

Louise

Sammy

April 30, 2010 - 8:43pm

I went for a walk( through clover planted farm field and to a river) and thought of the term hyserectomized and thought if one's mom or husband or God forbid a child had had open heart surgery ---what would the term surgacalized imply?? I think a heartless negative. I think the term hysterectomized also implies a negative.....

We need sometimes to apologize.....

To reinforce that removal of the healthy uterus is not a wise option hysterectomize is probalby appropriate.... we do not live in a black and white world,,,My uterus should not have been removed....We are a team ---mistakes and all....

Christine

April 30, 2010 - 10:12pm

Hi Sammy,

Someday I hope to have in place a channel through which injured women, myself included, can express our anger. Please examine your feelings some more and try to sense whether “She was given a hysterectomy” really makes you feel better than “She was hysterectomized.” Which is more real? This is a legitimate word that was first used by Nora Coffey of the HERS Foundation - herself hysterectomized at a very young age.

I stand by Nora’s insistence in using the words hysterectomized and castrated for just the reason you so eloquently state, “To reinforce that removal of the healthy uterus (and ovaries) is not a wise option.”

Christine