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louiseds
December 5, 2010 - 9:01am
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Congratulations Cararosesmum!!
Hi Cararosesmum
Wonderful news. I am glad the birth went so well.
I can remember 28 years ago having just the same thoughts after my highly managed first birth. Yes, I felt full, and I wondered how the hell I was going to do this. The pain of having such a big poo was my main worry. I had an enormous episiotomy too, and I can remember being worried about compromising the stitches. I knew that my whole vulva had been through a lot and I just didn't want to upset it any more.
Well, I didn't have to worry. On day 3 my body suddenly decided for itself that it was time to evacuate. So of to the toilet I went, probably after breakfast, and had a big poo that was really no big deal. What a relief!
It was as if my body decided that birth was over now, and it could go back to its normal functions. Coincidentally, my milk came in on day 3 as well, so at least my little piranha had something to satisfy him. Perhaps my body was relaxing because my milk had come in? I was very well prepared for the birth, but will admit that I was very anxious after the baby was born.
Just have faith that your body will do what it was designed to do, and get on with loving your beautiful baby.
Best wishes
Louise
kiki
December 5, 2010 - 9:35am
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Huge congrats!!!!!
What great news! welcome new baby!
I'm glad the birth was good--pushing is one of those thigns--your body just tells you. I couldn't imagine not pushing--my body just says you gotta do that now! no fighting it...
Re going, you are doing all the right stuff. Keep drinking a ton, eating good fibre. Sometimes something hot first thing in the morning can be the key, or I find a big dish of pulses for lunch can as well. larger meals rather than snacking seems to signal to my body to go, but with a new baby, you gotta listen to your body.
I wouldn't stress. You will go eventually. You might want to support your perineum whilst you go, as it is undoubtedly sore, and that should also help to relieve anxiety out everything opening up too much....it won't. you're looking after your body, and you will be fine.
enjoy the babymoon!
Kiki
aza
December 5, 2010 - 10:37am
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congratulations!
What excellent news!
Kiki's suggestion is great; try moistening a washer in warm water (or ideally, a warmed herbal blend of healing herbs like comfrey, tea tree, sage, lavendar, calendula, etc.) - fold this and use it to support your perineum. With some agility you can hold this with one hand and splint with the other (make sure hands are clean of course, as you know!)
The first poo is scarier in theory than in practice!
Keep us updated ;)
alemama
December 5, 2010 - 11:51pm
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congratulations!!
Wow! and a boy. That's wonderful. and the birth sounds amazing.
you could take some mama calm (that magnesium drink) before you go to bed
you could do an enema
you could eat tons of watermellon
you could put your bum up in the air for 5 min or so then lie down for 5 min and then try to go (have no idea why this works but I suspect it has something to do with the rectocele not allowing the appropriate signals to get to the brain and when you invert it somehow helps that)
and don't even think about it feeling hard- unless you are feeling distinct masses all balled up and packing in more and more- the posterior wall just feels hard when your colon is full.
and if you don't have a good herbal wash get one.....that little unstitched tear can heal together if it's approximating and you give it a chance- you can even use seaweed as a little band-aid.
clavicula
December 6, 2010 - 2:20am
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Yay! Congrats on the baby!
Yay! Congrats on the baby! :)
You got great advices. Do not stress about it! :D
Liv
kiki
December 6, 2010 - 3:57am
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tears
lavender, frankincense, and cypress in the bath is great for helping to heal tears. I had rather unpleasant ones (first degree, but one went up--not fun!). They were resistent to healing until someone recommended those oils. amazing how quickly they then healed! and the baths smelled so heavenly....
alemama
December 9, 2010 - 3:51pm
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so?
How are you feeling now? did you cross this bridge yet? Hope it all went well and you are enjoying your babymoon.
cararosesmum
December 9, 2010 - 9:25pm
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poooing and lying on your back (not at the same time!)
Thanks ladies- I have indeed pooed. Happy days! Initially the first one was abit hair raising as I felt a bit constipated, but now I've sorted my diet out again it's all going smoothly.
I feel abit achey in my pelvis, but I'm guessing it's just my prolapse making itself known. Nothing's dropped down TOO far yet- but it's early days and I'm expecting it to get worse :-(
Another question- reading thru old posts there's lots of advice not to lie on your back. I'm tandem feeding and co-sleeping with two- and my previously night weaned toddler has decided she needs to feed lying down the same time as bubs. For the sake of my sanity I let her, but it does mean lying on my back for half an hour or so. What damage is this going to be doing? I want to survive the nights- but I don't want to drag my organs into my vagina!
Wow, one issue out the way, in time to make room for another!
Thanks in advance for your wisdom!
louiseds
December 19, 2010 - 8:37am
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not lying on your back?
Hi Cararosesmum
I am stumped on this one. I cannot see the problem with lying on your back, as long as you are flat enough that it is not like you are lying in a slouch with a lot of pressure on your perineum. I always thought not lying on your back was during pregnancy. Have I missed something???
You go and tandem feed any way you jolly well find works, girl. I think you have made a good decision on this. I bet your big girl has a twinkle in her eye. She is a very lucky girl! I am sure she will eventually decide that she doesn't need to be a baby for you to love her just as much as before.
BTW, I have pooed flat on my back! It feels really weird, but was much better than not pooing at all! (Think: traction 24/7 and bedpan, for three weeks)
Louise
new_mamma
December 31, 2010 - 12:58pm
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seed
Are you having any success by now? I use salba seed to help keep me regular. You can buy it at the health food store and its tasteless and odorless. Its keeps you soft but you don't get to loose either. Plus the health benefits are incredible. Hope you are having success!!
louiseds
January 1, 2011 - 2:03am
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not lying on your back? AMENDMENT
Hi Cararosesmum
I just read my previous comment and realised that I got a hold of the wrong end of the stick. 'Not lying on your back' is about not spending a lot of time with your uterus and bladder being pulled backwards by gravity in the early postpartum days, when your uterus is reverting, and all the connective tissue that was stretched during the pregnancy is shrinking back to its pre-pregnant configuration.
As it takes about two years to revert fully I would guess that the first few weeks would be the most important. If you are spending a lot of time lying on your back I would think that you could balance that up when you get up again, by pulling up into Wholewoman posture.
I guess what I am saying is that lying on your back in a hospital bed for 10 days is probably not going to do you a lot of good (as my mother did, and never developed prolapses). Less time on your back is probably better than more. When you can, lie on your side or tummy. If you find you are lying on your back a lot, then just pull up into WW posture when you stand up again. I really think WW posture when you are vertical is much more important than not lying on your back when horizontal. WW posture will realign your organs and your connective tissue anyway.
Sorry if I confused you.
Louise