When I first “cracked the code” on stabilizing and reversing prolapse, and wrote and published Saving the Whole Woman, I set up this forum. While I had finally gotten my own severe uterine prolapse under control with the knowledge I had gained, I didn’t actually know if I could teach other women to do for themselves what I had done for my condition.
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louiseds
September 22, 2011 - 10:58pm
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Welcome Marie M
Hi Marie
I can understand your deep disappointment about your pelvic organs prolapsing at a time when you really want to have a body which is acceptable to both of you and attractive to your new husband.
I guess you feel like you have gone to your daughter's wedding in a brand new dress, and some idiot has driven through a puddle and splashed mud all over it, before you have even arrived at the Church. You feel suddenly ruined, unattractive, and ashamed that you are not worthy to be there.
Of course, these feelings are not a reflection of reality. Your new husband loves you dearly for who you are. You are acceptable and attractive to him. There is no need to bear any shame for having prolapsed pelvic organs. It is not your fault. We women tend to see our bodies as a reflection of our inner selves, when the body is really just packaging. ;-)
You will survive this, and your marriage will thrive in spite of it, and you will both be able to enjoy sex too.
Marie, I suggest that you initially go to YouTube and have a look at the excerpts of Christine's videos about Wholewoman posture. These will give you some basic understanding of the biomechanical principles behind it. The video, First Aid for Prolapse is a good first resource to have, to teach you how to manage your body. The book, Saving the Whole Woman gives more depth of understanding.
Once you have a good understanding of how your body is designed to retain your pelvic organs inside your vagina, tighten all your pelvic floor muscles and extend your vagina, and see that there are many ways that the body supports its pelvic organs, you will begin to lose your fear and start to live again.
Doctors can be a bit catastrophic in their descriptions of prolapse too, and very negative about the prospect of not having surgical repairs, which are, of course, the products they sell.
You are the one who can assess where all your organs are, once you can identify them with your fingers. You just work out whether the organ you can feel is coming out of the front or back vaginal wall, and how low they are.
Go away and do that and report back. It may not be as bad as you think!
You can use Wholewoman posture principles for sex too. The woman on top often works well while you are exploring the possibilities. The advantage of it is that your belly can be relaxed and your lumbar curve retained, and you are in charge of penetration angle.
BTW, men don't seem to even notice the difference when a woman's pelvic organs are prolapsed. BTW2, plenty of lubrication will actually help, rather than reducing friction. It is the shape of your vagina, and the positions of your pelvic organs that will change with Wholewoman posture.
Louise
marigold2
September 23, 2011 - 10:31am
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rectocele and cytocele not all bad news.
Just a quickie to say welcome MarieM. sorry to hear that you are going through the rotten stage of finding out that you have a prolapse. You will read that lots of people, myself included, go through the tears and unable to do anything stage...
The good news is... there is abundant and richer life AFTER prolapse, if you will allow yourself to find it.
Take a few simple steps:
Only wear loose clothing
Start standing and walking in WholeWoman posture
Take care with the diet
Take just a few things out of your heavy boxes and allow yourself more time to unpack and arrange your new home (or perhaps a little help from friends or neighbours, i guess this is difficult until you get to know people in your new area)
Know that Wholewoman forum members are here to help you along the way.
If you can, order the DVD and book, and start the workout first part as soon as you can.
After 9 months with rectocele and cytocele, I am gradually learning more about my body, the important things in life and the sex part is fine......
Hang on in there, things will improve, gradually.
Hugs to you from UK
marigold
Daphne11
September 24, 2011 - 5:08pm
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Self - esteem
Well, it certainly sounds like you have mistakenly carried negative self-images from your first emotionally abusive marriage into your second marriage to someone who truly loves you.
By mistake you have become your own abuser by continuing to use and abuse yourself in terms of sex. Sex is about loving not performance; however, many women with prolapse issues find that true loving and caring from one's true love and from the self can actually mend problematic self image and sexual performance.
Fix your self-image and let your husband's love help in your healing. We can't afford to say mean things about ourselves; we just don't have the option.
Daphne11
louiseds
September 26, 2011 - 12:58am
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Wise words, Daphne 11!
Yes!
:-)