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Submitted by momof32012 on January 18, 2012 - 10:18pm
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Hello. My name is Nicole and I am a mother of three beautiful children. I had, had two c-secions with my first two and a natural birth with my last. Unknown to me it was going to be an extremely long labor, and along with that prolapsed organs. My doctor says that I only have a stage one prolapsed bladder and a minor prolapsed urethral prolapse. Now it has gotten worse (urethral prolapse), that I no longer have a vaginal entrance. It is completely blocked and I can no longer have sex with husband. I had my last child Oct of 2011. I am completely lost on what this means, how long it lasts, what I can do for it, what to expect and so on. If anyone knows anything please HELP! Thank you for your time.

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momof32012

January 18, 2012 - 10:20pm

Also I would like to know if there are any success with this problem and 'the saving the woman system'. Can it truly help? What are the warnings about all my options?

louiseds

January 19, 2012 - 12:35am

Hi Nicole

Sounds like you are feeling pretty distressed about all this, which is quite understandable. Potentially losing your ability to have sexual intercourse as part of your marriage would make most women feel just as devastated.

At about four months postpartum you are at a stage which is normally *the worst*. If you do nothing at all, it will start to get better very soon. We don't know why this happens at this time, rather than immediately postpartum. It just does. Members will probably post their agreement and confirm this.

You are now in the best spot now to learn about your body. We have no agenda in keeping secrets about your body from you, or expecting you to just accept it. We will actively help you to understand what has happened. Your part of the deal will be to attempt ot understand what we tell you, ask specific questions and apply it to your own body. Click on the FAQ's tab at the top of the page and see if you can take in the answers to questions most commonly asked.

I do need to ask you some questions to understand what has happened. You say that your vaginal entrance is completely blocked and that you are no longer able to have sex with your husband. Are your vaginal tissues physically fused together, or is there just no discernible space where he can put his penis in your vagina? Hopefully the answer is 'just no space'.

How do you know it is blocked, and have you explored your vulva and vagina with your fingers to familiarise yourself with the 'lay of the land'? It is your body. It is OK to do this.

Secondly, have you been back to your doctor and asked him what he thinks has happened? What did s/he say?

I can reassure you that you will have success in improving your prolapses. Many of us, including moms who have discovered prolapse a few weeks after giving birth, have experienced immense improvement by changing our attitude to our bellies, improving our posture, changing the design of our clothing, changing the way we use our working and home environment, exercising appropriately. and generally using our bodies in ways that are supportive of pelvic organ support. Your body will be still reverting from this last pregnancy until about two years postpartum so you have plenty of time to help it along. Improvements go on for years if you adopt this new way of being.

Now, dry those tears and get on with loving your husband and your lovely baby and other children. It will get better.

You can also Search the Forums using the Search box to find information on topics like you are experiencing.

I am sure we will hear back from you.

Louise