Prolapse and painful sex

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When having sex with a prolapsed vaginal wall where do you get the pain? I get it in the pelvic area/low stomach!! Normal??

Carrie x

Hi Carrie

It is hard to say. A couple of questions.

Is the pain better or worse if you use different positions for coitus?

Is it only during coitus?

Which wall do you think is prolapsed, and what organ do you think might be impinging on your vagina?

Its most positions that are uncomfortable. And my front vaginal wall has collapsed I've no idea what's hurting when we have sex, most of the pain stops when we stop.

Carrie x

If your front vaginal wall has 'collapsed' it is likely that it is your bladder pushing into the vaginal space. If your bladder is falling back, chances are that your uterus is also falling back somewhat.

Do you know if your uterus is retroverted? You can tell where your uterus is sitting by the position and orientation of your cervix. Can you find your cervix with a finger. Where is it coming from, front or back wall, or vaginal vault? Which direction is it facing? Up, down or straight towards the opposite wall?

If your uterus is retroverted it may be getting squashed between your sacrum and your partner's penis, and may even be bent in half. Sounds hurty, doesn't it?

Have you tried sitting astride your partner, so you are in control of thrusting depth and direction?

Have you tried lying on your tummy with a few pillows under your hips, which is like being inverted. Your pelvic organs will move deeper into your body in this position, which is out of the way of thrusting movements.

Have a think about these possibilities.

BTW, you haven't had any repair surgery, have you? Just checking.

Louise

Louise

Hi thanks no I've had no surgery, and I have no idea about any of the things u mentioned, guess I will have to do some googling and find out what's what.

Carrie x

You might find stuff about retroversion, but gyn world generally plays it down and doesn't see much significance of it. You will find lots on the Forums. Use the search box.

Re sex positions you might find experimentation the best way to find out what works. :-)

Being open about this with your husband is really the key to it. He won't want to hurt you, and he will want to work out how you can both enjoy sex again. He is probably very worried that his sex life is over, which is a bit sad. I am *sure* it is not! I really think this is a temporary problem until you can reconfigure your pelvic organs back to where they should be, but I cannot tell you how long that will take. Your diligence with WW work *will* help move it along.

It takes a while to understand what is really going on in your pelvis, at least it did for me, and involved a lot of anatomy study in academic texts and internet, with the WW teacher training I am doing.

If you are googling sex positions you may have to change your browser security settings to allow your searching to include what is considered by some people to be porn. You might also have to disable your Kiddie Protection software so your computer doesn't think you are a child.

Good luck.

Louise