Newcomer Questions

Hi, all.
I have some very basic questions. I know you've probably repeated yourselves over and over, but I am having trouble finding the very basic answers, so please bear with me as I learn.
I'm 46. I began menopause last year and it was horrific because I had a rushing surgical doctor who tried to rush me into a hysterectomy. I put the brakes on, and was able to confirm within a few months that it was, in fact, menopause due to my hormone levels (or absence thereof.) So in less than a year, I've gone from six months of bleeding to nothing for six months, hot flashes, changes in digestion, changes in body hair, and so on. I had a sinus infection last month for the first time in a decade. I was on antibiotics, sudafed PE and guafenisin (mucinex.) Well, a day after coming off all those, I started having issues "down there." It felt like I had a half inserted tampon, is the best way I can describe it. I used a mirror and looked, and instead of seeing a canal like last year, I see a wall of tissue. It doesn't look like my cervix unless it's sideways? It's sitting right at my vaginal opening, which is why it feels like a tampon, I guess. But everything is suddenly also so dry that I'm not sure it isn't just a problem caused by that. I've got an appt with my dr but it isn't for a week, so I'm looking for some relief and answers during that time.
I tried the replens but it burned like heck. I was desperate the night it started and used olive oil. That helped more than the replens but it doesn't seem to last long. I went and got some Gel Vit E. That seems to help, but only for a short while. But whatever is pushing down still does so.
So I've been reading through your discussions. Here are my basic questions:
-When you talk about coconut oil, do you mean plain food grade? Is that for dryness all the time or are you just using it to be sexually active? (I'm not - I just am trying to stop the pain.)
-Is there a picture anywhere of the exercise poses? I don't know a thing about yoga, and it sounds like that's what is being described, but I really can't figure out in my head the position. Or can someone tell me the name of the poses so I can look them up?
-I've never had kids, never been pregnant, etc - It doesn't appear I have any of the risk factors except lifting a lot. Is there anyone else here who had it happen like that?
I'm hoping I'm over reacting and that it is just dry. But I haven't read anything anywhere that talks about your cervix dropping down just because you suddenly dry out. But maybe I haven't found the right search words or something.
I don't have a mother who ever was communicative about such issues, so I have a hard time talking about them, so thanks for the existence of this forum and your participation. I'll have more questions soon, I'm sure.
I hope I'm putting this in the right forum.