what can i do? feeling lost 11 days after having bubs

Submitted by klee on July 9, 2012 - 3:55pm
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hi all i had my baby girl 11 days ago and since day 5 pp things have been feeling very low front wall and cervix are sitting right at the opening if not a little bit out after ive been on my feet for a hour. i had a long labour and a birth that didnt got to plan, bubs was back to back and couldnt get her to move and then ended up with a cervix lip that the midwfie had to move. before bubs it was just the front wall that was low but it seems its more now. so my questions are is this normal after having a baby? and what are the best things for me to be doing to try make things better? as i now have 3 kids under 4 and finding it hard to do day today things and its starting to wear me down.

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louiseds

July 10, 2012 - 1:31am

Hi Klee

Yes, I remember that worn out feeling well, when I had three babies under five, but more when I had a 2 1/2 year old and a newborn, and felt like I had a football blown up indide my vulva. I am glad I didn't look. It would have been too scary. (BTW, the third pregnancy was easier POP-wise.)

Being 11 days PP you are still very much getting over the labour and birth. Many societies allow the mother 6 weeks after having a baby, for her to rest and just be Mum with the new baby. Unfortunately many of us do not have that luxury, but there are good reasons why we should, as a society, move heaven and earth to allow our newly delivered Mums to do this resting for a few weeks, and get someone else to do all the nuts and bolts of running other children around, cleaning house, cooking and family logistics. No wonder you are feeling a bit POPpy.

Are you able to get some help with all the things that can be done by someone else? Can you get shopping delivered? Can you get someone to help at meal times? Can you use disposable nappies for a few weeks, or other ways of lightening your load a little, until you are feeling a little stronger? Is there someone who can hang out washing and bring it in and fold it every day for a few weeks? Or even cut up veges or salads for your evening meal each night?

Are you eating a nutritious diet? Would a multi vitamin/mineral supplement help for a few weeks?

Have faith in your body. It will recover. It is just having rather a hard time at the moment. I think it is telling you that you need to take it a bit easier for a while. It will take a full 2 years for your body to revert on the inside back to pre-pregnant state.

Try to pull up into WW posture whenever you are sitting or standing, relax your belly and allow your organs to come forward off your vagina onto our pubic bones, and rest on your lower belly, just as it was when you were pregnant. Lying down to nurse might be a good way of getting your feet up a few times a day. Perhaps a mattress in your living area might allow you to rest and supervise your other two children at the same time.

I hope you can pick out some things that are helpful from this hotch-potch. Feel free to post again.

Louise

wholewomanUK

July 10, 2012 - 11:03am

Hi klee,
Congratulations on your new baby!
It's very common for pp mums to have some kind of prolapse symptoms. Given your birthing experience, it's not surprising you're having some prolapse issues. I completely agree with Louise. Your body will take some time to heal. Get as much help as you can, rest as much as you can, eat well & avoid constipation, lean forwards and just touch you thighs on the edge of a loo seat when you go to the loo, live in WW posture (standing, walking, sitting....), reduce stress, increase happiness levels in every which way you can think of... All these things can help..
In the longer term I recommend Christine's book and dvd's; (the 2nd wheel yoga dvd is especially recommended for post partum mums).. I found these resurces really enhance the effectiveness of the WW work.
Please keep us updated. We're here to help.
Big kiss to the little babe - and big hug to you too. xwholewomanuk

klee

July 12, 2012 - 8:57pm

sadly i cant get alot of help we live out of town so cant get someone else to drop the twins off at pre school etc and hubby works long hours and 6 days a week most of the time (went back to work this week) he helps with what he can dealing with the kids and cooking tea if hes home in time etc etc, but im worried about putting to much on him as well. i just finding it hard to deal with as i have had no worries since 18 weeks nothing at the end of my pregnancy like most people, so didnt think it would get any worse well i was very wrong :( i have a get midwife thats trying to do what she can to get me seen and something done to help as day to day stuff im finding hard and i only leave the house when i have to now. thanks for your time lady's

alemama

July 12, 2012 - 11:07pm

I went back and read the past posts to remind myself, I remembered you came here pregnant. Congratulations! Sorry the birth did not go as planned.
Ok, so your uterus is low and your cystocele is bulging, you are basically alone in caring for 3 kids under 4, what can you do?
Make life as simple as possible for now (get rid of toys? get more toys? put cups and bowls where they can get them, use the bottom two drawers of the fridge for foods they can get themselves, etc)
Spend as much time as you can on knees and elbows
be sure you are fully emptying your bladder
only cary around the baby
use the posture sitting and standing
take a great many rests and lie down all the way when you do- maybe even put your feet up
Push your uterus up (but maybe not yet if you are still bleeding)
Have hubby cook and freeze meals for the week on his one day off
Do not wear tight clothing
Get a support garment and see if it helps
try a pessary if you are up for one

Expect this to be something you are going to live with for a long time.