prolapse, but have a perfect pelvic floor

Hi i am another newby to the site, an aussie mum. My son now is 4 years old, and after quickly reading some of the posts, thought i would put my situation out there and see what anyone else may think.
I lost a baby at 11 weeks gestation therefore needed a d and c, to take my very precious pregnancy away, yes it did devistate me at the time but i dealt with the grief and my loss and moved on, today as i said i have a healthy happy 4 year old, but his birth was tragic, my placenta was still attached underneath my sternum, unfortunately this was not noticed during any of my scans and there were several, due to the past history already described. Dakota my son, was only 5lb 12 oz born, tiny eh, but the delivery went from bad to worse when they discovered my cervix would not open, to allow him to be born, although i was fully dilated, (this still causes me much confusion). However, eventually my son went into distress and there was no time for an emergency c section, so i ended up being cut in 6 places, three either side of my normal bits. sorry about the graphic detail, but this along with suction cap was the only way my darling was going to get into this world, he was not breathing when born but eventually after what seemed an eternity, the doctors told me he was breathing and ok, from there i felt overwhelmed and relieved, finally, i was a mum, however, i did have massive blood loss and lost over half my normal bloody supply, my lights basically went out and i passed out, when i came round i could see my son in my mums arms and the sheer will to live kicked in with a passion. I very near lost my life but am thankful for the work the staff did on me, to this day i do wish they had given me a transfusion to replace my blood lost, they chose not to, i was not asked and did not know i could anyway onto the later stages, i discovered i too had a prolapse, at 6 week examination, i could hear noises coming from down there and knew something was a miss, but after the events of the birth thought that may be why, so, prolapse, how come i asked my doc, as i did all my pelvic floor exercises etc and was totally shocked however my pelvic floor was perfect, confused.... i got all depressed and was not going down the surgery road either, but want to let all of you who are worried that it can improve, it does take time and patience and in my experience no matter how many pelvic floor exercises etc you do, they dont seem to be the only thing that matters. For the first three years of my sons life i was continually sick with all sorts of inflictions due to my immune system being at rock bottom from the blood loss, even though i ate well and took iron supplements for 6 months, i breast fed him and he thrived thankfully, and he was an extremely great happy new born, no trouble at all and made mothering even in the face of all my illnesses which ranged from glandula fever, to ross river virus, a bout of 38 boils, and numerous other horrible colds and flu's and tonisilits nearly ever other month, i am finally feeling like a healthy mum, i got to a place after the first year of all of this and thought hey what the hell i have a happy healthy baby no matter how bad it gets i only have to look at him and the positives far out weighed the negatives, but the day i coughed in public and wet myself certainly threw me into a spin, this got progressively worse, exercise was out of the question and when my little man turned two i could not pick him up without leaking, not happy, no confidence, lack of self esteem, and feared going out with a passion, but i slowly and surely got through all the illnesses and the leaking and somehow or other today, dont leak as much and hardly at all now when i sneeze, mind you as i said he is now 4, and yes i can pick him up for hugs and piggy backs and wrestle around the floor without the wetness. So for all you wonderful mum's that are feeling a bit low please find some hope in that time is definately on your side, find your own inner patience and look into the eyes of your children and if lucky enough to have one your loving other and know that there strength is with you even if they dont understand what you are going through, Thanks for this site to by the way shame i had not found it heaps earlier... if anyone has any input or ideas on the issue of my cervix not opening please feel free to list them as i am yet to get any answers from the medical world, very rare, apparently and that being the case no body here really wanted to deal with it or face me with any explanation but it plagues me to this day and will probably do so for some time to come.