None of the pre-cursors...all of the fall! Comfort? PLease?

Body: 

Good afternoon ladies! I need the CLIF's notes version of the forum...all the stuff you NEED.

A quick tidbit about myself and my situation. First and foremost, I ordered the bundle from CHristine and have a one on one scheduled in June to "fix" me. I am 36 yo and had 2 kiddos close together, 6 and 7 years ago. I'm extremely active, well within a healthy BMI (5'5 and 135lbs), non smoker etc etc.

Anyhow, 2 weeks ago I visited my GYN for symptoms of excessive discharge. It was basically like my vajayjay had a sinus infection. DISGUSTING...doesn't even begin to describe it. After testing and an exam, I came away with it's just a change in your hormones and "you". Great I thought as I left on our family vacation to Puerto Rico. In PR...things just didn't feel "right" down below and I scheduled a follow up for the day after our return.

To my utter horror that morning after a BM, I wiped to discover a bulge not too far into my vagina. I was mortified! Cancer tumor was my first thought. I summoned my husband to come, feel and take a very candid photo to show my GYN. I didn't want there to be any mis-commuication regarding what I thought I saw/felt.

OK, so prolapsed uterus diagnosis and ultrasound on the 13th and partial hysterectomy on the 28th. WHAT????? I researched and researched until I had determined the kind of surgery I wanted, what I wanted saved and basically spread the word to friends and family. This morning, I couldn't shake the "I don't want to do this" feeling. So I searched again...Non surgical treatment for prolapsed uterus. Pessary etc. came up...and then I found this site. Within 45 minutes I had joined, ordered bundles, and a 1 on 1 session and booked my flight from St. Louis, MO to Albuquerque, NM.

I figured....I can always have surgery later. So here I am soaking up as much knowledge as possible while I wait for my book, DVD and tool. As I said in the first line, I need the Clif's notes version. I want the down and dirty best of the best advice and solutions.

SO I have been engrossed in all of your posts and personal stories since 10 am and am looking forward to getting started. I just need to know that there are some HUGE successes in progress out there. So if you would, If you have read this...please share with me your on going process. I know there is a forum for success with the program but you have to be involved with it for 12 months before posting. So I want the thick of it. Tell me what I can look forward to within the next weeks, months. COmfort me please.

Nik :)

It's great to hear that you're listening to that inner voice and how quickly you've accepted the relief and wisdom of not being rushed into surgery. You've just done the most important thing you can do for yourself. The more experienced and knowledgeable women (than I) that monitor this site and have participated here and in their own personal health care will come around answering questions. I just wanted to say hello and best wishes. BTW, I'm 62 and had my four children close together in a five year time span but didn't show obvious evidence of cystocele and rectocele until a few years ago. I'm working again since January of this year on posture and walking, have started mowing and gardening again this spring, and have every expectation of being able to maintain without surgery for the rest of my life. I think you shouldn't be discouraged when I say that I expect to be able to 'maintain'. You're much younger and may expect more of yourself. What you'll get out of this is as much as you are willing to put into it (depending, of course, on your particular variable factors and the unknown future) . When you've read the book, you'll have even more understanding and relief about what a good decision you've made not to have surgery now and to commit yourself to the Whole Woman in you.

If you’ve read since morning, I’d say you have probably seen the Cliff notes version: WWposture, posture posture. Posture builds the strength of your muscles and pulls the organs back up where they belong and that means forward over the pubic bone. Remember, up and over.

First point. Stop beating yourself up over this. It’s happened. It’s unlucky seeing as how you have led a healthy lifestyle. You’ve done your best and it sounds like you did not deserve this, but there you have it. Few people do.

Second point: Uterine prolapse is a bugger, but it is manageable. Most particularly make sure you don’t constipate or diarrhoea and avoid wind. This means really watching your diet for any foodstuff that leads to these things. Straining and stretching of the rectum needs to be avoided wherever possible. The same as a heavy intestine. Half squat to urinate. This is a better position prolapse wise than sitting on the toilet seat as it keeps your pelvic muscles taut and does not allow them to relax to the degree that your prolapse is encouraged to slide further downwards. So, it’s a matter of looking after all the organs down there, being kind to them and kind to yourself.

Third point: It will not stop your life. You now need to be conscious that when you move around about your chores and life generally that you are in posture, anything that means you are going out of posture means you are holding your muscles in the wrong way and you are probably pushing your pelvic organs down the canal.

Welcome aboard. Have a good trip to A.

Hi Bebe just glimpsed you.

Hi Nik

You can find my story in the Success Stories Forum. I can see you are a woman of action. There is no point in sitting around moping at times like this. Good on you.

One little hint. Though you have been diagnosed with uterine prolapse it is likely that you will experience a degree of bladder prolapse and eventually rectocele as well. This is because the uterus can only come down if the vagina's connections to the bladder in front and the rectum at the back become damaged. That's OK, ie normal, even though it can be even more distressing than the original diagnosis. You will be able to conserve the fascial connections you still have between the bladder and vagina, and vagina and rectum by using Wholewoman posture and observing our other life techniques.

Sudden prolapse can be very hard to deal with emotionally, cos it hits you in the face, just when you think you have it all worked out. Gradual onset is not nearly as traumatic, but is no better or worse. It sounds like you are handling it very well. Go gently on yourself while you adjust and learn workarounds and of course WW posture.

Louise

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and insight! It's nice to hear that prolapse isn't a life sentence for a myriad of health complications. I am looking forward to having the books come and dive into them with my husband. He was so traumatized by my "alien baby", he needs to get some facts and also education so that he can support me and remind me of my posturing.

Louise, I cannot wait to leave here and read your story. Bebe, thanks for the Cliff notes directions! :) Fab, thank you for your gracious welcoming. I appreciate the support that this can be successful and manageable. I am already planning for the summer with a whole new outlook...not my well...I'll be on the couch for 2 weeks and then I can't do xyz for another 4-6 weeks so...

It's nice to see I may get my life back.

So jealous that you are going to the WW Center! Enjoy enjoy!! Welcome aboard. - Surviving

Good luck on everything, and so glad you found this site before the surgery! Just wanted to say that if you do the posture and other things, and do them right, they will work. Also wanted to tell you that, as posted above, sometimes things get worse before they get better. I had a rectocele, found WW, then slowly developed cystocele. However, after I noticed it the cystocele almost immediately started improving again. It is also, I have discovered, a much better gauge for how I am doing with diet and everything than my rectocele.
Please do not get discouraged if you discover that other organs other than the uterus have prolapsed to some degree! It is very normal, and will get better with time, emotionally as well as physically.