Scared and devastated

Hi mamma

Sounds like a real pity party for you at the moment. Dry your tears, my dear. Your recovery from pregnancy will be another year in the making. Yes, the doctor has described where your body is now, but it won't be like that in a year from now. BTW, the biggest secret on this site is that men don't notice the difference. Their mind is not on the sensation of your vagina on their penis. It is on the feeling inside of their penis! However, what your partner will notice is your downheartedness, and hopefully he will support you through this stage.

If you are not having any pain or discomfort yourself from sex, just enjoy it. Thinking about sex a lot is OK. It beats the hell out of worrying about the state of the world, and who is going to win the football!

Yes, your post-baby body is with you forever, but it won't always feel like this. It will feel much better. Just be patient. I suggest that you get a copy of Saving the Whole woman, and the DVD First Aid for Prolapse, and get cracking on adjusting to beautiful Goddess posture, chucking out clothes that compress your abdomen, clean up your diet, learn to sit, and lift and carry properly, and exercise your body to strengthen the muscles needed for Whole Woman posture. These are the steps you can take while you are being patient. Now give yourself a hug and a pat on the back and get on with loving your baby and that wonderful man of yours.

Post again with questions and progress. You can also Search the Forums for subjects that interest you.

Louise

Hi mamma and welcome. Just a caution, traditional Pilates and yoga were developed by men, and contain lots of moves that are really really bad for female pelvic organ support. I am presuming that your physio would know the difference between good moves and bad ones in that respect. Your body will certainly tell you, especially once you have started working on the posture and get to recognize these things for yourself......which does take time and patience and work. So good luck to you. - Surviving

It seems to me more and more that the saying 'Ignorance is Bliss'. When I had my last 3 daughters I had them with a midwife and not in a hospital. I did not have any practioner examining me for any prolapses. I think sometimes it is not necessary to go into every detail about our physical condition. I believe it adds more stress rather than helping. You are still healing from giving birth and you need to allow this healing to happen. Be patient with yourself. We do sacrifice a portion of our bodies in giving birth to our children. I believe that the muscles in and around the uterus will never quite be the same as if we had never given birth. Carrying a baby full term naturally puts stress and pressure on our female organs.
Be at peace and space your children out if possible before giving birth again.
It is when people get diagnosed by the medical profession, such as when they tell you, 'You have cancer, you have 'arthritis, etc. that people's condition gets worse. If you had not been told about this back wall prolapse would you have even known you had it??

Sticking my head in the sand is one of my best talents, so I can see the immediate advantages in not necessarily knowing you have a prolapse situation in the works.....you may indeed feel like you'd have been better off not knowing. But the thing about prolapse is that you can stabilize and reverse much more easily in the early years and maybe avoid the post-meno explosion that so many of us experienced. So if a diagnosis brought you to our door before your symptoms did, so much the better for you! Don't blow the opportunity to start dealing with this early on. - Surviving

I did not mean that knowing is wrong, but could it be that perhaps after birth (all) women may have some type of prolapse going on, that time and exercise can help to strengthen??
I do believe that the WW posture and the DVD for prolapse will help greatly. And so will being able to speak out and post things on this forum. Being able to communicate 'fully' really helps in the process of healing.

Most likely true that we all have some prolapse after birthing. I know I did, but I didn't think much about it (assumed it to be normal after effect of passing large watermelons!) and went back to my life of kegeling and bad posture. So let's get the RIGHT info out there early. - Surviving

Absolutely! I totally agree it is going to be very helpful to have the proper posture and exercises so we strengthen the organs rather than weaken them.
I really enjoy reading the different blogs offered in this forum, I love the wealth of female knowledge I come upon when reading.
And I look forward to sharing it with my daughters when the time comes that they need it.
Thank you!!

Hi and welcome :-),

just want to say, that I have been told, that it needs 6 months after weaning to get off the hormones. So you'll still have another 4 month.

Best wishes
Butterfly

Hi Dear Mama,
You have found the right place to be.
You will feel better in time & if you adopt the Whole woman posture, it will see you in good stead for life.
You will read on this forum that many of us with prolapse, including me,have been able to have more children. I have rectocele & it didn't cause any bother with two births.
Take care, read lots,
(((hugs for you & your baby)))
Best wishes,
Aussie Soul Sister

I had 5 daughters and I don't know if I had a prolapse, rectocele or any of my organs sagging, when I got pregnant I had my girls and with each one and the fact I was getting older, it got harder and harder on my physical body. My body is definitely not the same as it was before I had my children, but no one told me I had any of these problems. My girls are all healthy and were healthy babies, and now I am finished having babies, but if I had the choice I would do it again because being a mother is one of the most wonderful opportunities we are given as women.