When I first “cracked the code” on stabilizing and reversing prolapse, and wrote and published Saving the Whole Woman, I set up this forum. While I had finally gotten my own severe uterine prolapse under control with the knowledge I had gained, I didn’t actually know if I could teach other women to do for themselves what I had done for my condition.
So I just started teaching women on this forum. Within weeks, the women started writing back, “It’s working! I can feel the difference!”
From that moment on, the forum became the hub of the Whole Woman Community. Unfortunately, spammers also discovered the forum, along with the thousands of women we had been helping. The level of spamming became so intolerable and time-consuming, we regretfully took the forum down.
Technology never sleeps, however, and we have better tools today for controlling spam than we did just a few years ago. So I am very excited and pleased to bring the forum back online.
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Best wishes,
Christine Kent
Founder
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Surviving60
October 17, 2015 - 5:08pm
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Sure, you can clench those
Sure, you can clench those muscles in an effort to keep from wetting your pants, but is that how you want to go through life? Doing so does not address the problem, and will aggravate prolapse. - Surviving
Aging gracefully
October 17, 2015 - 6:06pm
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How long have you been
How long have you been working on the incontinence program? The pee on pee off excercises look very promising, and with all this work, does take time before results are seen. Maybe, just give it some more time. If you are still having problems, a consult with Christine may be the next step for you.
Best wishes.
veggiemom
October 17, 2015 - 7:03pm
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Clarification
I am not referring to clenching through life. I'm talking about doing 10 or so quick kegels once a day and feeling as if the mechanism is now working better for preventing leakage when sneezing. My prolapse has not returned since I live in WW posture. I find the posture is what works for me. Even though I have most of the exercise programs, for me it comes down to using the posture. I have a very sensitive body (possibly Ehlers Danlos) and often very specific exercises, including the pee on pee off ones, irritate my body.
Aging gracefully
October 17, 2015 - 7:57pm
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Veggiemom,
Veggiemom,
That is wonderful that you have been able to keep your prolapse symptoms away with the posture work, that is what this work is all about!
Maybe a consult with Christine is what you need about the sneezing incontinenece. She may have some ideas, or have some modifications that you could do in your particular situation.
veggiemom
October 17, 2015 - 9:23pm
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Thank you, yes, I am so
Thank you, yes, I am so thankful to have found Whole Woman and have actively shared it with others. I'm trying to reconcile my experience, and I just feel like I haven't found the answer to this particular question. I'm guessing others might be looking for this answer as well.
first time mama...
October 17, 2015 - 9:46pm
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Legitimate question!
I think your question makes a lot of sense. I have tested out the same quick contraction in supine because it's also the muscles for sex, right? But there's no way I'd do any squeezes upright. I'm all about relaxing my belly and not sucking and tucking! At this point I don't regularly do the quick squeezes minimally as you describe but I don't see the harm and if it's helping then great!
Miss Diagnosed
October 18, 2015 - 7:20am
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veggiemom
I've read responses by ukwholewoman on the kegel question who advises (someone will correct me if I'm wrong no doubt) that this can be done (if you choose) safely on all fours so that the belly is relaxed and organs protected. Try it maybe to see how you feel this way?
Surviving60
October 18, 2015 - 7:28am
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Agreed
Yes....if you must do this, don't do it lying on your back. - Surviving
Aging gracefully
October 18, 2015 - 7:32am
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There are also tons of
There are also tons of threads on here about all the different kinds of incontinence women have experienced, from stress to urgency, caused from episiotomies, birth, etc. I was just reading through a few of them. Maybe you can find something that clicks with you from those posts. Also, looking through the incontinence program again may be helpful.
veggiemom
October 18, 2015 - 12:30pm
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Just wish could find question addressed
Thanks very much for your ideas. I prefer to do kegels on my back (with lumbar curve maintained) because I had varicosities in pregnancy and I don't like to do them while upright as that seemed to aggravate the varicosities, but I will see how on all fours works since that would take the weight of my body off the area well. I have gone through many threads and the materials I've purchased, but I haven't seen this question answered directly and I feel like it's one a lot of people must wonder about. Can't strengthening the muscles that stop urine flow midstream help stop urine flow? I know that the posture is the most important factor most women are missing. But for incontinence why can't strengthening the muscles we can feel ourselves using to stop urine flow have a contributing factor in preventing leakage? I know most people need to get the WW posture in place because they haven't incorporated it completely and that's the biggest piece women need.
Surviving60
October 18, 2015 - 1:15pm
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Veggiemom
I think maybe the reason you aren't finding this addressed to your satisfaction, is that despite your study of the WW work, you are still holding onto the conventional model of the pelvic organs which says that it is strong muscles that hold everything in.
While you are working on this, if you need to squeeze the muscles when you sneeze, then go ahead if you like, just keep lumbar curvature in place. If you want to kegel, do it as suggested on hands/knees so that organs are properly aligned. I am wondering if your specific health issues are hindering the re-establishment of lumbar curvature. It does take time for all of us. - Surviving
Miss Diagnosed
October 18, 2015 - 1:47pm
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Incontinence and prolapse
I can't find the thread but am sure there's one where Christine talks about how many women with prolapse actually don't suffer urinary incontinence due to the way in which the organs are displaced. I for one had terrible leaks after baby number one and this time have to have one helluvu sneeze with a full bladder to leak at all which is interesting. I think kegels do work for incontinence (awaiting barrage of outrage here) BUT it's the risk of the strain they put on prolapses which is the catch 22. We use these muscles daily to finish peeing and bowel movements and during orgasm so I don't think there could be so much harm done with a few a day in a safe way if they help. I have recently been doing a few 'test' kegels on all fours at various times of the month (symptomatic and asymptomatic) to gauge how things feel internally pressure wise. It was back when I was three months pp and quite symptomatic that I felt my bladder pull further into my vagina doing a rep of kegels on my back with knees up. Scary. I didn't do them like that again after this!
Christine
October 18, 2015 - 1:43pm
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wrong concept
Hi Veggiemom,
“Strengthening the muscles” is simply a wrong concept. Exercising the full range of motion of the pelvic wall is certainly important, which we do in many of our exercises (pelvic rocks, pelvic circles, firebreathing, etc).
Quadrupeds have a thick, powerful wall of muscle at the back, which wags a tail. Humans have a thin, sinewy wall of muscle (and a lot more fascia) at the back, the primary function of which is to control intraabdominal pressure. The secondary function of the pelvic wall is to help things go out. The pelvic wall is not adapted to holding things in.
In human bipedal posture, the pelvic wall follows the movements of the bony pelvis. When the lumbar curve is in place and the tailbone lifted, the wall closes side-to-side like a pair of elevator doors. Most of this closing pressure is happening at the level of the urethra, which is called the external urethral sphincter - and it is important. The back vaginal wall clamps down tightly against the front vaginal wall (I think we should coin “vaginal nutation” for this movement) to form a closed, airless space, protecting itself against surrounding organs being pushed into it. This is why we do not have vaginal air unless we stand on our head or such. The human anal sphincter is a powerful, double walled organ that protects itself against the forces of gravity in the standing position.
You can feel this for yourself. Sit on a firm surface with your lumbar curve fully in place. Now kegel. Where do you feel it most? You should feel in mainly around your urethra. But you can’t get much movement out of the circular contraction because the wall is already closed side to side! Now slump back, flatten your lower spine and contract. Where do you feel it? Around your anus primarily. Because the vagina is more open side to side, you feel the circular closure there as well.
This is how the self-locking mechanism of the bony pelvis and vagina protect against prolapse and incontinence.
*Any movement toward the round, purse-string closure of a kegel is an equal amount of movement away from the side-to-side closure that is our bipedal urinary continence system.*
Maximum closure of the urethral sphincter is the direct opposite of contracting the pelvic diaphragm. Do you see?
As I have said elsewhere, the only possible anatomic reason for kegels improving urinary incontinence is that they draw the bladder toward the front vaginal wall to form a cystocele, which kinks the urethra in the opposite direction. Most women here with significant cystocele have little trouble with SUI.
Kegels are just the wrong concept, but every woman needs to experiment and figure that out for herself.
Christine
veggiemom
October 18, 2015 - 6:01pm
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More clarification of my question
Thank you all for the feedback. I have a prominent lumbar curve. I am not referring to doing a kegel while sneezing. I find pulling up stronger in WW posture works best for preventing leakage when sneezing. But I found after doing these few kegels a day the closure mechanism seems to be working better when it needs to. I am not writing this because I have a major problem. I know the posture is what has reversed my prolapse and supports my organs, not a "pelvic floor." I just simply am wondering why, if you can deliberately use muscles to stop urine midstream, doing that action as an exercise (with proper lumbar curve) wouldn't help that action work better. I don't understand why those muscles are best suited for pushing things out when you can use them voluntarily to stop something midstream (like how they tell you to learn which muscles to use for kegels) they seem pretty good at holding things in. That is my point of confusion.
Christine
October 18, 2015 - 7:15pm
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more clarification
A round, kegel contraction is secondary closure of the three sphincters of the female pelvic wall. Primary closure is side-to-side. You are stopping the flow of urine midstream after much of the pressure has been released from your bladder. If you were experiencing strong contractions of your full bladder, bowel, or uterus there is no way on earth contracting those muscles would hold in their contents. You know if you have to pee really badly you make it to the bathroom by contracting the sphincter muscles. However, if you are about to wet your pants, the ultimate response is to stop and strongly cross your legs, effectively squeezing off the side to side closure of the pelvic wall at the level of your urethra.
Some women can’t let go of the idea that kegels help, so have at it. You are not going to do the kind of damage Miss Diagnosed described lying on her back. I want our other readers to consider, however, that sitting over the toilet and doing sets of contractions is pulling the urethra-bladder angle (the sharp right angle at the level of the bladder neck) backward toward the vaginal sphincter. All of urology and gynecology know that it is loss of the “posterior urethrovesical angle” (the back wall of the bladder neck that gets pulled backward toward the vagina) that results in SUI.
veggiemom
October 18, 2015 - 9:44pm
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Thank you very much for your
Thank you very much for your descriptions here, Christine (and of course for all of your important work!). I finally get a better understanding of my question. I would never practice kegels on the toilet but I think clarifying this information will help others wondering the same thing about if you can turn off pee that way wouldn't you want to strengthen it (by kegeling), so I really appreciate your spelling it out as you did. Are you saying that damage occurs if you kegel with a good lumbar curve or that it simply has no benefit? I have found no worsening of prolapse from doing 10 quick kegels with lumbar curve (and I've felt that SUI improved--it certainly has not worsened). I know how tired longtime members are of kegel questions so I was reluctant to start this thread, but I feel like I've learned a lot.
Christine
October 18, 2015 - 10:54pm
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kegels
Certainly a few kegels are not going to be an issue in the slightest. It's just the mindset that sets of kegels as daily exercise are beneficial that is problematic. I can sense my pelvic wall tightening so many times throughout the day when I turn, twist, stand up, sit down, etc. This is why making a focused exercise program out of tightening the vagina seems so absurd. What if we did that with the anal sphincter? lol.
veggiemom
October 19, 2015 - 9:04am
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Thank you!
Actually, proponents of kegels do tell you to work the anal sphincter as well.
Surviving60
October 19, 2015 - 9:34am
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Enough
I think Christine has been rather generous with her time, Veggiemom, coming on here to debate kegels with you. But this isn't the purpose of the forum. You can do all the kegels your heart desires, as long as readers realize that they have no place in the WW work and that they can worsen prolapse by pulling the organs into the vagina. - Surviving
veggiemom
October 19, 2015 - 1:00pm
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I thought the thread was over
I have spent hundreds of dollars and referred many women to WW. I am very appreciative of these answers. I feel very alienated from this group though. I don't think my concerns were taken in the spirit they were written or even read that carefully. I know you all volunteer your time and are sick of kegel questions. I get that. But giving up kegels takes a huge leap of faith for many women, especially when they actually did something for them . In my case they somehow kept my prolapse at bay, but I had to keep up with them daily. I am much happier now letting the posture do the work and knowing my body is supported the way it is meant to be. I simply had a question about the incontinence side of things and could not find an explanation that went to my concern and I'm guessing that of many others. My goal was to further the cause of WW by having this explanation made completely clear. I didn't do this to irritate anyone.
Aging gracefully
October 19, 2015 - 1:36pm
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it seemed more like you were
it seemed more like you were making a point than asking a question, veggiemom, because you continued to argue it even after Christine came on to give you her thorough explaination of why Kegels don't work for either prolapse or incontinence. I think in your mind you want it to be as simple as squeezing a few muscle and have yourself convinced that this is what is working for you, when it could very well be just the posture work actually doing the job. And here you are giving the kegels all the credit.
Kegel away if you want to, but that is not part of Christine's work, and if you read the introduction page, you will find that we are not here to debate about her work. Call that closed minded if you want to, but I don't want to waste my time yet again talking about the tired subject of kegels on here, especially when Christine has proven through her research that they don't actually work.
veggiemom
October 19, 2015 - 3:41pm
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It totally feels to me like
It totally feels to me like my messages are not getting read clearly. I am on board. I am not one of these new people coming on saying how I'm working hard on my kegels to overcome my prolapse as if they have no idea what Whole Woman is about. But even if I were, it would be nice to be treated with more respect. A lot of people could be feeling pushed away by the tone of such responses. Do we want this to be an exclusive club or do we want to make people feel welcome since this applies to us all? I'm not asking anyone to endorse kegels. I know that is the antithesis of Christine's work. But someone recently asked me if I thought the WW system worked. I said I knew from experience the prolapse part did. I felt bad I could not whole-heartedly endorse the incontinence part. I had read and heard Christine talk about these muscles being better for pushing things out, but I couldn't reconcile that with the fact you can clearly use them to hold pee in. Now I feel like the explanation has been made very clear and I'm very grateful. I think it will be useful to other women as well to see this explained this way. If you don't make it clear you understand where the questions around kegels come from and just dismiss them, it will be hard to convince people there is a better way. I was not trying to debate Christine's work--as you can see in my first post, I was trying to find clarification why it doesn't work the way we have been made to think.
Aging gracefully
October 19, 2015 - 4:14pm
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Have it your way, veggiemom.
Have it your way, veggiemom. I don't agree with you, but I'm done discussing the issue.
veggiemom
October 19, 2015 - 6:07pm
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I'm sorry, but I must be
I'm sorry, but I must be missing something. I ended what I thought was a very helpful thread for myself and others to better understand the issues of incontinence and WW philosophy. I bit my tongue on my responses when I could tell people hadn't really read what I wrote. I was thankful to those who had kind words. I wanted to fully understand so that I could be a better ambassador for WW as I have made it a mission to share it with this so WW-unfriendly world we live in. I'm sorely disappointed that the one community I can turn to about these issues feels affronted by my quest to better understand these vitally important issues. I remain grateful for Christine's important work and for her taking the time to clear my mind after I felt like I couldn't find the answer I was looking for in the materials I had been through. Since I refer women to this site, I feel like I have a vested interest in trying to make it a friendly and welcoming place and making sure the information is as complete as possible--and that women aren't afraid to ask questions.
first time mama...
October 19, 2015 - 8:53pm
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I appreciate the questions
Veggie mom I appreciated all of your questions and I read in your responses exactly what you said. Thank you. I learned a lot.
veggiemom
October 19, 2015 - 9:30pm
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Thanks, first time mama...!
Thanks, first time mama...! I had a feeling I couldn't be the only one wondering these things! I'm so glad this forum exists for us to support each other and learn. I feel like I can share WW better with others when I can more fully understand it myself.
Miss Diagnosed
October 20, 2015 - 3:44am
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I got you veggie mom
This is a very helpful thread for newbies too! I am sure many people wonder the same things. If Christine is happy to come and explain things in such detail then that's great for all of us. I'm not sure why this provokes such frustration every time? These questions help people coming to the site for the first time before they get to the business of using the search feature and keep things fresh and clear in all of our minds.
Surviving60
October 20, 2015 - 6:33am
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None of Christine's exercise
None of Christine's exercise programs should cause pain or a lot of initial discomfort, unless someone starts out too zealously, or has other medical issues (as it seems you have, veggiemom). If you cannot do pee on-pee off, and you feel that continuing kegels is key to managing your incontinence, go ahead and do them. But it is clear that you fully expected some push-back on this issue, so I just don't get what the big deal is now that you got some! - Surviving
veggiemom
October 20, 2015 - 8:39am
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I figured if I was wondering
I figured if I was wondering these things having used the search feature and read old threads and having purchased and watched many of the programs and books, others must be wondering them too.
Aging gracefully
October 20, 2015 - 8:57am
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The question has been raised
The question has been raised before, by the way. I remember Christine and another long term member argueing about kegels for incontinence right here on the forum.
What bothers me about your posts is that you said you couldn't endorse Christine's work, because of the incontinence part. Christine created that incontinence program as a continuation of her work, to more fully explain how this work helps incontinence too, but you couldn't find anything useful in that information?
I did go back over those modules again, and I have to say it was very helpful and had great solutions and additions that will help anyone interested in helping their prolapse or their incontinence.
sea turtle
October 20, 2015 - 9:09am
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Thanks veggiemom and Christine
This is a good thread. Why? Because it provides information/explanation. And it goes to show that even people who have been doing WW and purchased materials still might have questions/need clarification along the way. The usual "do the posture, be quiet and come back with your success story" is not always helpful and actually stops newbies from asking questions.
Surviving60
October 20, 2015 - 9:12am
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Sea turtle
Hmm....if that is your summation of what we do here, then maybe you should spend a little more time on the forum! - Surviving
Christine
October 20, 2015 - 12:01pm
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let's move on
I think we have to remember that there are many people in the prolapse/incontinence business besides WW. Someone can’t legitimately just start teaching the WW work without becoming a WW practitioner. Therefore other modalities, such as kegels, have to be the foundation of what they teach or promote on their websites and classes.
We also have people that for whatever reason have always been sort of at odds with or critical of these forums. Such is life. What astonishes me is why they hang around waiting for the chance to make a cheap shot.
What I would like to say at this point is, for heaven’s sake be more creative! Anyone who tries to kegel on her back with lumbar curvature in place will quickly learn it is a completely futile endeavor! The wall is at the back, the organs are positioned at the front, and the angles they make with their channels are the most critical aspect of organ support. Pulling the bladder neck toward the back in this way is very stressful for the urethra/bladder angle.
While you are at it, why not use a dildo (not plastic!) to hold the organs in their places as you give yourself an orgasm? Or have intercourse with your honey bunny as you squeeze him in a rhythmic way? This is truly good for prolapse, as many many women have found out for themselves.
I believe you were heard, Veggiemom, and I thank you for asking the question. Please don’t take our responses personally, as the subject matter is more than a little irritating to us at this point. Kegels are a male response to a female problem and have no place in our work.
Let’s all move on. Please.
Christine
veggiemom
October 20, 2015 - 2:37pm
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I'm so sorry that my messages
I'm so sorry that my messages were misread. I did not say I don't fully endorse WW! I said I felt bad when someone was asking me questions and I didn't feel confident because I was still unclear on the fact that you can use the muscles to turn pee off and I couldn't totally understand the explanations I had read over and over. I never saw this specific question answered in another thread and would have been satisfied with a link to that if someone could have posted it. Once WW posture clicked for me, I have only tried to share it with others and have never tried to undermine it. I thought this was a safe place to ask questions. I feel so sad that my intentions were misinterpreted. I love Christine's work and found the incontinence program very informative, but I just had this nagging question I couldn't find specifically addressed. On one positive note in the right direction, I heard a midwife speak recently and she said "kegels are out, squats are in" and then others chimed in about WW. Squats without the pulling up of WW didn't do a thing for me so I don't know the attraction to them, but at least the mindset is moving away from kegels being the answer and hopefully if we all keep speaking up the WW posture will be moved into the mainstream.
Christine
October 20, 2015 - 2:42pm
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lots of love, Veggiemom
{{{{group hug}}}}
P.S. Squats are great exercise for the arches of the feet! Otherwise, the position is no different than sitting upright in a chair! ;-)
Surviving60
October 20, 2015 - 2:46pm
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misquoted?
Veggiemom, c'mon! You said "I felt bad I could not whole-heartedly endorse the incontinence part".
Your messages were read and read and read, they were not misread. - Surviving
veggiemom
October 20, 2015 - 3:00pm
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I felt bad I couldn't be the
I felt bad I couldn't be the effective ambassador I could be if I understood it better. That's why I was looking for answers so I could be confident talking with people who only know kegels as the solution.
veggiemom
October 20, 2015 - 3:01pm
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I want to be sharing the love
I want to be sharing the love with you guys--I feel like the typing medium just doesn't get things through well.
Aging gracefully
October 20, 2015 - 3:33pm
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Veggiemom,
Veggiemom,
It's not the initial question that bothers me, as everyone thinks, but what happened after the question was answered. I hate pulling quotes out of sentences, I just don't think it is fair to people, but, you said that you found no worsening of prolapse doing ten quick kegels. That gave me the impression that you weren't really paying attention to the message. If I took that out of context, then I totally apologize.
We need to get beyond this kegel thing, because Christine's urinary incontinence program as well as all her other work up to this point is all we need. Trusting in that work can be a leap of faith for some, and I get that, but those that never do are really missing out on all this work has to offer.
Best wishes to you, veggiemom.
everhopeful
October 25, 2015 - 12:34am
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Hello Veggiemom
I just wanted to say that the day we stop asking questions is the day we stop growing! I always taught my pupils that if they had a question there would definitely be someone else in the class who was wondering the same thing! Most of us are so glad to be here on this site but have only arrived because we asked questions! I certainly questioned my doctor's opinion although many of my friends do not and I am amazed at how they nearly all have hysterectomies, so sad. I have more understanding after reading this thread ,thanks to all concerned. I send you hugs and thanks Veggiemom we r so lucky to be Whole Women! :)