New and Holy *Prolapse* this is scary!

Submitted by jepala on June 3, 2007 - 4:08pm
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Hello Wonderful Women..

Here I am...47 years young, mother of three daughters, grandmother of six granddaughters and happily married for 28 years. I have been basically very healthy although I have Hashimoto's (autoimmune hypo-thyroid), treating that with Armour,very successfully.

Now this...what a shocker for me. For the last three weeks, since discovering a lump while wiping, I've been researching cysts, tumors, cancers etc. NOT ONCE did I stumble on prolapse. So imagine my suprise when I finally made an appt with a gyno to rule out cancers, etc., to hear you need a hysterectomy, your insides are falling out. Here let me show you. Hands me a mirror, grabs the tip of my cervix (I think)and gives it a tug!!!! SEE he says....look I am hardly PULLING on your cervix see how easily it can come out? OMG. I freaked out. I even said WHY are you pulling it out... push it back in! Once I got a hold of myself, he says this is the only way to FIX this. Yank it all out and just go on hormones. If you wait, your bladder, rectum and intestines will follow suit. I had one patient who waited and she came back with all that on the outside. OMG. Then he started on my "choice" of thyroid medicine. That spurred me into action... I KNOW my stuff when it comes to thyroid, I found my backbone and remembered I was the one in control of my body! I do wish I could be a mean ole bee-atch but being the polite person I am, Just told him I would get back to him on the surgery as I had a lot of researching to do first. I should have told him... YOURE FIRED! ha

Just like I had found my "natural" armour option and treatment for my thyroid health, I knew there had to be something else more natural/holistic/alternative for my prolapse. Of course all I found at first was every medical site saying Hysterectomy, although I have to say a lot of the sites I checked out did offer at least a few options where as the gyno did not.
That gave me a glimmer of hope. Then I found this forum. It was like the sun coming back out after a dark gloomy day. THANK ALL OF YOU for that. I have my hope back.

I already have a bunch of questions, am trying to stay in the posture, and going to begin to retrain my body to bend and stretch. Have not sat indian-style in years! Now.. I can kick-box and used to do some heavy weight training, but subtle stretching has not been my strong suit, but will be. And boy is it ever so hard NOT TO HOLD my stomach in, and lumbar curve? What the heck is that? haha
I have also ordered Christine's newest book w/cd. Can't wait to read it and have that sense of "knowing" and the power it gives me to face my new life with a prolapse.

Linda

Therese

June 3, 2007 - 6:42pm

So sorry about how the Dr treated you and I would never go to him again. It sounded like a physical assault to me what you experienced. I would have been terrified and left too. Not because of not being able to be a bee-atch--although that is hard? (impossible) to do when you have been trained to be polite--slapped into it at times!!--but the fear for my physical safety! Your experience I think is the worst I have heard of. I intend to make sure whenever I have my yearly exams to stress I will NOT be man handled at all and for the dr to be very aware of my prolapses and to be very gentle...If I had your Dr I would bring MACE.

I am glad that you have found the site and hysterectomy is what causes the other prolapses anyhow--besides childbirth and etc--it is the major cause of it!!...so his advice is riduculous. Take your time reading and I think for most of us the posture and exercises are important and changes to the diet and just understanding prolapse are the things that help most....any specific things you can search for specifically...so many wonderful POSTS here !! And Women. It all takes time...I personally am 42 & 7 months postpartum--have the Cyst & Rect --graded at 2 and now experience hardly any symptoms at all.
I do find that emotionally it always with me. I don't think it will ever be the "same"--but I am able to cope knowing what this is and how to respond to it.

Welcome and I feel so bad about your experience. I wouldn't have believed it...older I get the more unbelievable stuff I believe since it seems the world is getting soooo aggressive and in the wierdest places!! Places you should feel safe!! Dr office my word!! His behavior was appalling.

Welcome Linda.

MeMyselfAndI

June 4, 2007 - 6:40am

I am so glad you made it here - Maybe one day you can go back to him and tell him that YOU do not need his yanking it out - it is in very well - Thank You!

Welcome to a whole new way of living :-))))))))

Sue

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granolamom

June 4, 2007 - 8:35am

I cannot believe your doctor actually PULLED ON YOUR CERVIX!!!!!!!!!
my oh my, *now* I've heard everything.
and oooh it makes me mad

ok, that aside, I think you're really going to like it here. prolapse is alot less frightening when you can share it with friends : )
read through the posts here and ask any questions you may have.

jepala

June 4, 2007 - 6:38pm

Hi and Thank you for the welcome. The more I think on how I was treated the angrier I get. Isn't the motto.. first do no harm? I am still achy from it all, not to mention how I feel emotionally. But I am a strong woman, and I will get through this. *GULP* Now how long does this fear, anger thing last?

Thanks again for the welcome...

jepala

June 4, 2007 - 6:44pm

Hi Sue,

I'm so glad I found this site as well... And I think *&^* would freeze over before I step into that torture office again. :0)

I've just learned a whole new way of living once my hypo-thyroid was diagnosed... and now this... a lot of it still seems daunting... but I am not an ignorince is bliss type.. I gotta KNOW!

Linda

jepala

June 4, 2007 - 6:58pm

Hello Granolamom, ya know it did not register exactly what he was doing right in that moment..ya know? And yes I am MAD too. I'd really like to go and pull his B's through his P. That is if he has one. Oh boy...I really am angry. That kind of comment is really not like me at all normally.

I'll have to get used to the sharing thing... I'm really a very private person, but I think I'm going to need the help of those of you who have already been there. Thanks for the welcome!

Linda

alemama

June 4, 2007 - 7:59pm

at least for a little while. We trust these Drs. with our bodies and they continue to violate us......I think for me I would not be able to let it go until I wrote a really good letter detailing why I would not be returning and the information for non-surgical management of prolapse. Not hate mail- but just information so maybe he won't do that to the next woman.
Share with us- we will hear you out.
Welcome to the site. You will weather this new health development very well- You are already so proactive.......soon you will be supporting us.

Christine

June 4, 2007 - 8:52pm

...telling him how woefully behind the times he is and that one day soon his "standard of care" will be grounds for a lawsuit.

AnneH

June 5, 2007 - 12:13pm

I've been watching a lot of the health channel lately and if that is to be believed, the normal way to birth a baby is to panic on day 7 past due date, enter hospital, induce labor, give epidural, and end up with a C-section because labor doesn't "progress" adequately.

Nuts.

How did women possibly give birth before modern medicine? Same idea with prolapse. How can a hysterectomy possibly be the "only" cure, when you know women have had this problem since time began? Am I to believe that every woman with a prolapse back in the days before surgery walked around with the uterus hanging out then died from it? Maybe some did, but far more likely they just had ways of dealing with it. Pessary, for the win, if nothing else.