Having a good day! It does get better.

Submitted by munecarica on September 24, 2007 - 9:36pm
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I promised myself that i would post when feeling good.
Many times when feeling very down and hopeless i visit this site and mothering.com to look for hope.
Sometimes I feel worse when i read posts about others feeling bad.
It ocurred to me that many of us come here when we are feeling down and out, and those that are feeling better probably move on or do other things because suddenly POP is not their obsession, so we may see a lot of posts about feeling bad, sad, fearful, scared and uncomfortable, which we should feel welcome to share at liberty. But let's also acknowledge glimmers of hope.

My campaign is for everyone post on a good day too!

I have been back to work for one month. Today I realized that i am in much better shape than when I went back to work. I felt like I should resign from my job on my first day back. I had a grade 3 cystocele. I felt so saggy and felt like my pelvic floor was completely caved in.
I am just guessing that now it is a grade 2, because it doesn't bulge down so far and I feel so much better. I had a bit of a spring in my step today and I was really happy about that.

I swear that i have had days when i was convinced that I would need surgery and now I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am about 18 weeks PP, doing PT and kegels and not a whole lot more because I barely have time with the children and my job. I do try to eat well and avoid heavy lifting. Yesterday I had a great day with my family in Central Park. I felt like I could frolic more with my 3 year old than I have since my new baby was born. It is such a relief.

Patience my friends! Postpartum prolapse is the ultimate test of your patience. But we do get better.
Best to all

louiseds

September 24, 2007 - 10:10pm

Hi Munecarica

This is wonderful news. When you are down in the depths it is hard to see how it could be possible to feel better. No doubt you will still have your rough days (particularly just before periods is common). We all do, but in time there will be less of them. Also it is still early days yet. You can probably expect some improvement for at least a year after giving birth. I'm so happy for you.

Cheers

Louise

alemama

September 25, 2007 - 10:05am

I have been with out a computer for a while and I'm checking in- I am so happy to see this thread started- sad that it hasn't gotten a lot of action...almost 2 weeks ago now I had one night of stupid drinking and dancing in high heels - running all over downtown and eating junk- and not sleeping-it has taken me 2 weeks to heal from that night- but I feel great! and it was worth it (by the way).
So even when I have a set back I know I will feel better just as soon as I move and eat properly- the road to recovery is so much longer than the one to devastation.

UKmummy

September 25, 2007 - 10:12am

All my days are good these days I have to say! :)

I know that I am very fortunate with not feeling my prolapse physically, but I surely felt it mentally for the longest time. I am TOTALLY OK with it now, have accepted that I am somewhat different, and have even accepted that that difference is actually pretty much normal for us Mommies!

I saw a friend who I hadn't seen in a while last night and she said "you seem different, tall and strong!" That sums up how I feel completely. I walk tall, I have more confidence in my body and who I am as a woman, and I am at peace with having completed the beautiful family we have. This journey has actually moved me forward to a place I don't think I would have come to otherwise.

Yes Munecaria and Alemama, it certainly does get better!! :)

kiki

September 25, 2007 - 10:15am

so great to hear that you are on the up (in many ways!!!).
i always thought there should be a section for posting "success stories" to give newbies hope. i was so depressed when i came here, and needed to know that there were people who came out the other side able to get on with life.

i'm now 39 weeks (yikes!) post birth, and doing great. i never would have believed this could be this much better. every time i think i've plateaued i have another little lift.

now my challenge is letting my mind relax about it. i worry if i lift something a bit too heavy or out of the posture, and about what happens as baby turns toddler turns small child. but the other women here give me reassurance that all those things just work themselves out...

so thanks for sharing your great day, and hopefully lots more great days from others to join yours!

UKmummy

September 25, 2007 - 11:36am

Oh KiKi!

Your mind will relax I promise! I really do everything these days and while I no longer worry that everything will drop out, I always do a strong kegel when I lift or jump. It has kind of become second nature to me and is really the only time I kegel now. Other than that, I seldom check how things are now either. I am confident that things will stay where they are and I don't worry about what may happen. I am still seeing improvement as well.

Hugs,

Michelle

Gracemom

September 26, 2007 - 7:10am

Thank you! This gives me hope.

sheppie

October 1, 2007 - 11:47am

I first posted on there at 6 weeks postpartum and have also recently when very down and scared about any new thing that popped out.

I can honestly say, though I am careful when lifting my son, and when picking up an item etc. I no longer think about my falling bladder on a hourly basis.

I take long walks with my baby and my 2 dogs and by the end when I am feeling a little 'heavy', I take a deep breath and am glad for the ability to have been able to walk in the 1st place.

I am alive. I must move on. You all told me I would eventually get to this place, but I didn't believe you.

Munecarica, I am glad that you are feeling in a better place as well.

canadianmama

May 6, 2008 - 12:44pm

I was looking at your posts and how things have progressed and improved for you...thank you so very much for posting the ups as well as the downs...you have no idea what encouragement you have given me today---seems to be a particularly tough pp day today, but your story does give me more hope.

Thank you, from a weepy mess!
~kristy