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Hi! I was thrilled to find so many stories about this issue. I feel so alone and scared. I had surgery for a rectal prolapse July 04. Well, here it is May 05 and now I have a rectocele coming thru my vagina. I joked with my doctor "Did that surgery have a warranty?". He didn't even respond. His whole attitude was so uncaring. I feel as is my life is over. The worst part is not being able to pick up my son. Forget ever having a sex life again. I DO NOT want to have another surgery. I'm only 36 and a single mom. Where do I go from here? I would love to hear from other moms as to how they are coping. Thanks for listening.

Dear Sad Mom,

Welcome and I, too, hope you hear from other moms who are dealing with rectocele. You didn

Hi Sad Mom,
I'm 61, been diagnosed with 3rd degree proapse, rectocele, and cystocele!!!! I have only been a member here since ? end of March???But things have already started to improve! My sis-in-law told me hers was falling out, and she had to push it back to pee! Well mine wasn't quite that bad and have never had incontinence. I went to the same gyno she did and he suggested pessary or surgery. Well before I thought, I said surgery. Then I started having bad thoughts, and for right now have declined it! She had the surgery and is doing well, but she is 72, and very inactive. I am active and do a lot of heavy work around the home. Christine's book has been a godsend to me, and I'm sure many more. I do so many kegels, even when I wake at night. I am experimenting w/ sea sponges. I think I like them. I have had 3 days in a row of good feeling. Wow, I like that! You are young enough, keep trying. I had pelvic floor therapy and I do those exercises also. I have never had anything other than appendix out, but had 3 children, and the first was very hard labor.. Make sure you don't get constipated. Every night I take something for this, as straining is not good for us at all. Don't give up the ship! You are not alone here with Christine and all of us. Read her book.
Nancy;) Monday the 9th would have been my surgery, which I declined!!

Hi Sad Mom,

I wrote in a response to you, but it got lost in cyberspace with the forum being updated, but. I feel so bad that the surgery you had failed...but I am not surprised after reading Christine's book. Her explanation as to "why" these surgeries fail (which is a setup for repeat surgeries), truly speaks to the heart of the matter. We shouldn't be messing with God's perfect plan for us. I just wanted to add that the sea sponges have worked wonders for me too! They were created for women's menstrual cycles, which by the way they work great for, but also work for prolapse. I have been using the posture every day in everything I do like standing, sitting, exercising, lifting (not too heavy objects), But still I feel these wonderful little sea sponges are helping me during this time of "healing"! I too have a rectocele, even though it's slight. My main problem is the cystocele.... I feel the sponge will work for you... You can order through this website www.pandorapads.com. Go for it girlfriend! Many blessings, Aprile