Nana5 I dont know where to start...

Submitted by Nana 5 on September 28, 2013 - 11:22pm
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Hi! I am new to the site and am lost. I would love to purchase the book and DVD's. But, right now money is tight. Hoping to in a few weeks. Anyways my story. I am a 58 year old Mom of five. All VB, the first one ripped my rectum wall which required repair. But, I did not notice this problem until about 6 years ago. I thought that my muscles were weak in my rectum and that was why at times I could not go except by what I now know is "splinting". I have IBS so I have bouts of constipation and diarrhea. Mainly at that time diarrhea. Anyway I changed Gyns this last year and he told me that I have slightly bladder and rectal prolapse. He did suggest surgery but, I refused. Now I am to the point where I feel so abnormal having to splint all the time. My bowel movements are so hard that they wont hardly come out even with splinting. I also have ALOT of gas. I don't mean to be so graphic but, it is the only way I can explain things. I am ashamed because I pass gas ALL the time now. I have tried different gas meds and nothing is working. It dawn on me that maybe it has something to do with the prolapse? I just know that I hate my body so badly. I feel bad for my husband because we do not have sex and have not in a long time. I am too embarrassed. I keep reading about the WW posture and would love to try it but, I am assuming it is in the book. Can someone please help me??

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Surviving60

September 29, 2013 - 8:54am

Hi Nana5 and welcome. I'm glad that you saw through your gyn's totally inappropriate and dangerous recommendation. Suggesting surgery for "slight" cystocele and rectocele is one of the things that is terribly terribly wrong in this world, and will be set right only when women like you simply say no.

The gas and hard stools definitely indicate a need to work on your diet. Splinting is OK, straining is not. There has been a lot of discussion on these forums about keeping things moving easily through the system. I'm not the diet guru and what works for some won't work for all. Magnesium, a good probiotic, staying reasonably hydrated are a few of the easier suggestions but you can browse around. Obviously, identifying and cutting down on foods that make you the most gassy should be a priority.

I have rectocele and cystocele and have been doing this work over 3 years (starting at 60). I also have a very irritable bowel myself, and it bothers me less than it used to. I think this is because I have worked on controlling stress, made some better food choices, avoided eating large meals, and really really trained my body and mind in this posture. Keeping the spine, hips and pelvic organs in proper positions relative to each other, seems to lend more control to all the functions below the waist. Is this largely mental rather than physical? I don't know. I still make a lot of bathroom trips during the day but I don't have the types of occurrences I once did. WW is a very holistic approach to healthy living.

You can get a lot of information from the website, the forum, the blog and library of articles, from videos in the Resources section (I urge you to start with that first video if you have not already viewed it). There are lots of descriptions of the posture on the forum. But you will need, minimally, the book and/or the FAFP dvd if you are really going to do this work. I started with only the book for the first year, then the basic dvd, and one by one built up my collection over the years. The bundles are a great deal for those who can invest a bit more up front. What matters is getting a start on learning these concepts and not waiting another day to apply them. Best of luck to you! - Surviving

rose54

September 29, 2013 - 9:41am

Hi, I am also a mother of 5 all VB and I am also experciencing some major bowel issues that keep me wondering what on earth is going on. My gyn does not go fully into rectocele and cystocele but by the definition I have both. When I sit on the toilet things feel stuck or blocked, but yesterday when I went to the store I was walking around expelling gas all the way and it is embarassing.
I only have Christine's book so far, but yes what Surviving is saying is all true, and it is what has kept me (surviving) up to this point. But yes, diet is also very important, and staying away from wheat and dairy help alot. So does eating soaked apricots in the morning and taking Dr. Shultz, Intestinal #1 capsules.
Aloe tablets and liquids, there are many things you can experiment around with to help you.
But I totally feel for what you are saying and experiencing and it is why I joined this forum and it has helped me immensely feel better about myself and come up with ideas to get me through. And the WW posture is great and so are Christine's kegels. Some I can do, some I can't, she has a very flexible torso but mine does not move quite so freely. But I do what I can and with the support this forum is wonderful! Keep reading and reasearching and you will find alot of ideas.
The sex with my husband also never happens because I am feeling bad about myself and my condition. A friend of mine is ordering me 'sylk' it is a natural lubricant so I will try that and see if my husband still responds to me after all this time?
Thank you for your post, it is good to support one another in our quest for health and wholeness!!

Nana 5

September 29, 2013 - 12:46pm

I could have sworn I put in a reply and thanks to you both but, I cannot find it. Maybe hit the wrong button? Anyways thanks again for your help. Surviving60, I will indeed check out the site more and see what I can find. Rose54, I have indeed been in the same situation when I have been out shopping. Not good. :/ I work in a Daycare type setting and when someone mentions they smell a dirty diaper, even if I have not passed gas I think they can smell my issue. Crazy isn't it??? But, I do. My life lately has NOT been great. So happy I found this site and friends who can help.

rose54

September 29, 2013 - 9:37pm

Hi, fortunately I work mostly from home, but when I am around others in a social situation at times and usually the wrong times I feel like I have to have a bowel movement and that can be quite akward. So far I have always made it but it is nerve wracking! But I do not feel we are alone!!
I'll see if I can find something that can help control 'gas problems' my husband actually has more than i do!
Talk with you soon!

Nana 5

September 30, 2013 - 7:31pm

Hi Rose54! I went ahead and got some Magnesium like Surviving60 suggested to try. Maybe that will work. I do want to look into those pills you suggested if indeed the magnesium does not work. I am not sure you will find anything for the gas that I have not tried but, maybe. I am hoping so because maybe you might find something that works! Thanks again...Pam